He Leads Me For His Name’s Sake

What path do I take in 2019?

What are God’s plans for me this year?

What is God’s will for my life?

The calendar rolls over to another new year, so it’s a good time to ask ourselves these questions.

I want to be in God’s will doing the things He wants me to do. I want to follow the path He has laid out for me. I don’t want to steer off in the wrong direction. “Should I do this or that?” “Should I go left or right?” “Should I say yes or no?”

This week, while reading Psalm 23 with my children, this specific phrase jumped out at me- “He leads me in paths of righteousness for His Name’s sake”

After digging into this phrase a little deeper, I found so much encouragement to guide me  through those questions into the new year.

He leads me down paths of righteousness-

God not only leads me into living righteously and down the paths that are not sinful, but He also leads me into opportunities that are good and right for me. God is not going to lead me down a road towards something that is not in my best interest.

Remember the old game show Let’s Make a Deal? You had to choose door #1, door #2, or door #3. You could strike gold with a brand new car, a great stove…..or get dooped with a donkey!

God is never going to pull that kind of bait and switch or trick me with a clunker behind door #3. He is always going to have my best interest at heart. Whatever doors are opened  or remain slammed shut, I can trust that the path before me is one of righteousness and is for my greatest good.

Even if I go through the valley of the shadow of death, He will lead me through that valley. He will walk right there with me and never leave me until that valley flattens out into a beautiful path of righteousness!


For His Name’s Sake-

God is going to lead me down the paths for the sake of His Name. Yes, He has my best interest at heart, but His higher motive is what will give Him the biggest opportunity to display His Glory through me! Whatever path He leads me, it’s going to be for the purpose of His renown and for the sake of His reputation.

What a glorious thought! God using the circumstances in my life to make His Name known! How much stronger can I withstand the struggles of life knowing that He uses my circumstances to bring Him Glory! Makes the tough days worth it, right?


I am filled with such hope and peace knowing whatever happens in my life, whatever opportunities come my way, I can trust it will be for my righteousness and for His glory!!! Any door of opportunity that slams shut or window that seems stuck, there must be a good reason for it. I can trust Him!

I’ve been reading Psalm 23 all my life, and it never ceases to amaze me how in one small passage there are hidden so many treasures of truth. I just need to be in the right place spiritually to receive them.

This week, thinking about 2019 and what I allow to fill my calendar, this truth changes my prayer. Now, when an opportunity or decision comes my way, I can pray “Is this a right path for me (and my family), and will this bring You, Father, the most glory?”

Any feelings of disappointment, rejection, or fear can be properly surrendered and comforted because I will trust in the fact that the closed door wasn’t a path of righteousness for me, and it wasn’t for the sake of His Name.

What about you?

Are you struggling with which path to take in 2019? Are you not sure what God is doing or where He is leading? Are you questioning God’s goodness in the middle of your circumstances?

I pray this truth encourages you, and this prayer helps you:

Father, sometimes I don’t know where you are leading me. I don’t understand why opportunities aren’t opening up the way I thought, or I can’t understand why these circumstances are surrounding me. In the middle of this situation, though, I believe that You are leading me down paths that are right and good for me. More than for my benefit, You are guiding me down paths that will give You the most glory. Father, I surrender every path in my life to You. I will trust You in all Your Ways. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!



Life Hacks for the New Year!

Making resolutions has become so cliche it’s really not a thing anymore. Everybody still has their version of starting fresh for the new year. Goal setting, list making, purposeful words and so on because it’s January, and everybody likes a fresh start.

Hey, I do too! Even though Jan 1st is just a day, there’s something to the idea that the calendar is starting over. We have a chance to reboot the system. We can either start some new intentions or get a do-over.

As part of my planning for the new year and rebooting my system, I’m looking back over last year. Looking at my year in review, there were some things that really worked for me. Not only did I try to focus on my goals, I implemented some habits that really helped me feel I was making progress and staying on track.

Jeff Groins, blogger and writer, wrote a really great post about creating habits instead of goals , and it really was a lightbulb moment for me. I still want to have goals, but creating habits will help me towards making daily (hopefully) progress towards those goals.

Here are a few of my life hacks to help me pursue my goals for the coming year:

Exercise: Ok. let’s get this one out of the way. We all know we’re supposed to exercise, and yet, it’s SO tough to fit it in. I have to be honest with you and say that I don’t always exercise regularly. I struggle with staying committed to it. I’ll go through weeks of working out 3-4 times a week, and then life will get busy. Stopping for weeks at a time, it’s hard getting back into it. When I do exercise, I like to walk or jog outside. My brain and body get refreshed from the fresh air and sunshine. Or, I like to work out with a some exercise videos on YouTube. Finished with my 30 min, I always cheer for myself because feel better when it’s over.

Sleep– Yeah. Here’s another one. We know we need more of it, but that’s easier said than done. For years, I stayed up later than I should, and then I feel awful the day after. Then, when I feel awful, I am not a productive, nice person. Also, my attitude and mood are seriously affected. Not enough sleep=”I can’t do this life”. Enough sleep=”I can do anything!” So, I’m making myself get in bed earlier and it makes SUCH a big difference.

Weekly planner: I’m a list writer. When there are 20 things running around in my head that I need to get done, I’ve got to just sit down and write a list. Then I can work my way through it a little easier. However, there were things I wanted to do that I never felt I had time to do. So I took a course on productivity (see the checklist) and it was great! It gave me a way to prioritize my to-do list and to also see how I was wasting time. Now, I have a weekly planning session. On Sunday afternoons, I look at the calendar for the week to see what’s going on. I schedule errands, exercise, and other odds and ends that need to get done. Then, I’ll pencil in the time slots for what I want to get done for things like blogging, plannings events for WoW, studying and preparing for speaking sessions, etc. Menu planning is even easier when I decide what I’m going to make for the week (see below). A weekly planner has turned my to-do list into a more effective strategy that allows me to do more of want I want to do. See the checklist for some links to planner and productivity ideas.

Chore checklist: This life hack is the most recent strategy I’ve put into place. It’s actually for the kids, but I’m already loving it! Don’t you hate it when you spend your life saying things like “Did you brush your teeth? Did you make your bed?” Yep, me too. So, with the help of my daughter, we created a weekly chore checklist and a daily checklist of tasks for the kids to do. At the end of the week, they get an allowance for completing the checklist. I was blown away by the way my kids used their checklists to get all their stuff done. And I didn’t have to say the same things over and over again. We’re still in the training stages of this process, so I’m still showing the kids how to do some of the tasks. But, when they can do the lists independently, I’ll have even more free time to do other things on my weekly planner. Win-Win!

Crockpot/Meal planning: Alright, I’ve gotten better at meal planning with the weekly planner. Using the crockpot to get supper started even before I leave the house for the day is an awesome time saver! This early morning preparation allows me to spend more time in the evenings doing other things on my list or with the kids. The key to successfully using the crockpots for a handy meal is prep and planning. I’ve got to remember to lay out the meat the night before. Or, while I’m cooking supper on Monday night, I’m getting the crockpot ready for Tuesday night’s meal.

Daily bible reading– A couple of years ago, I decided to read through the entire Bible in one year. I had never read the entire Bible from cover to cover. Let me tell you, it took dedication to stick with it, but I’m SO glad I did. Even when I didn’t fully understand what I was reading, the daily habit developed in me a taste for the Word. If I go through a time of not reading the Bible, opening it up and reading from feels so good! It’s like feeding my soul! See the checklist for some websites that offer Bible reading plans!

Lunch study: Here’s another beneficial habit. Since it’s hard to find time to be alone at home, I try to do my quiet time study during my lunch at work. This study time has been vital to keeping me connected to God throughout the day. I read or study the Bible and spend some time in prayer all while listening to worship or instrumental music. It’s been some really good time with God.

Silence/solitude: Before the day gets started, I spend some time in silence before God. I meditate on God’s love or the character of God. When my mind is going a thousand different directions, this discipline can be very difficult. It’s been a work in progress, for sure. But I really love the focus and feeling connected to God. I try to make this apart of my lunchtime routine as well. Look for the resources on the checklist for silence and solitude.

Sabbath rest: This is the last but not least of my life hacks. A couple of years ago, I began to learn more about a Biblical Sabbath and the benefits of practicing it weekly. You can check out the checklist to learn more about it. But I’ll tell you, it’s done me a world of good! My mind feels clearer. I have more mental and physical strength to tackle a new week. I feel more productive. I really believe the same spiritual benefits of tithing can also be received when practicing Sabbath. God blesses the 90% of your finances when you joyfully tithe the 10%. He blesses the 6 days of work when you joyfully rest on the 7th. More than any of the other life hacks, this one has helped all the others work more effectively.


So there you have it! My contribution to help you get started on a great New Year!

You probably have some life hacks of your own. You may be in a different season of life and have some ideas for what works for you. I’d love to hear about them! Leave a comment or post yours on the Women of the Way TN Facebook page!

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Good Tidings of Great Joy

Christmas can be a difficult time of year for lots of people. Grieving the loss of loved ones, family conflicts, depression, anxiety, and financial hardships pile up on an already busy, hectic, and stressful time of year. For many, it can seem like everything is ok on outside while it feels very dark and lonely on the inside.

That’s where the final week of Advent can really help us through the Christmas season. Today, we celebrate Joy!

Joy gives us the strength to keep going.

The cares of this world suck the life right out of us. The worries of life weigh us down. But, the joy of the Lord gives us strength!

Psalm 30:11-12 says “You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing.
You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy,
12 that I might sing praises to you and not be silent.
O Lord my God, I will give you thanks forever.”

We all know that if we are mourning, we’ve got no strength for dancing. I’m just too tired! But God promises to turn our mourning into not just dancing, but joyful dancing. That means, He gives us the strength to dance!

As we look back over the weeks of Advent, we see how the gifts of Hope, Peace, Love, and Joy sustain us through our day to day existence. We look back at Jesus’ first coming and wonder at the marvelous miracle of it all. As a result, we are filled with Hope, Peace, Love and Joy so that we can keep going as we wait for the Second Coming!

Hope keeps us eagerly waiting for eternity. Peace keeps us walking steadily in this unpredictable world. Love is the driving force that fuels our purpose. And, Joy gives us strength to keep going.


Just as the angel proclaimed to the shepherds, “Do not be afraid, for behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy which will be to all people”, may you be filled with Joy as we share in celebrating the Good News together today!


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Make Room for God’s Ultimate Revelation

Throughout history, countless stories, poems, songs, plays, and books have been created to depict the human experience of love. As the greatest of all feelings and emotions, we have this strong desire to express how deeply and how powerfully we are affected by love.

Of all the characteristics attributed to God: faithful, powerful, glorious, merciful, all knowing, good, beautiful, and on and on, there is no other characteristic more essential to describe God than Love.

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God is love.

He is, at His essence, Love. He doesn’t merely exhibit love to us or show us love or share His love. He is Love.

God’s highest purpose is to show us how much He loves us. He longs to communicate just how deep His love is for us. Throughout Scripture, God describes His Love for us through a variety of ways. He reveals Himself to us through relationships that we can understand from a human point of view and experience:

God’s love is like a Father waiting for His prodigal son Luke 15

God’s love is like a Mother hen gathering chicks- Matt 23

God’s love is like a Husband knowing his wife- Eph 5:32

God’s love is like a Lover in the Song of Solomon

God’s love is like a Rejected Spouse in Hosea

God’s love is like Shepherd finding sheep- Matt 18:12

God’s love is like a best friend- John 15:15

God’s love is like a Kinsmen Redeemer as in the book of Ruth

God’s love is like a Groom waiting for his bride in Matt 9

The possibilities are endless of how God reveals Himself in order for us to understand how much He loves us. There are no lengths He won’t go to communicate His love for us.

God’s ultimate revelation of Love.

The ultimate revelation of God’s love came through the advent of Jesus becoming human, as one of us, to reveal Himself to us. Then, He sacrificed Himself for us so that we could be restored back to a righteous status with God

In John 4:9-10 it says, God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. 10 This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.

No song, no story could ever be enough to fully express the height, depth, and width of how much God loves us. The expanse of His Love reaches to the heavens and beyond.

As we light the candle of Love, this third week of Advent reminds us of the overwhelming love God has for each of us and to remember that God’s pure, passionate love was why He sent us a Savior.


As we prepare our hearts for Christmas, we look forward to the time when we are in His Presence for all eternity and Love is made complete! Make room in your heart for God’s ultimate revelation of Love!


Still catching up on all the Advent readings? Read them here: Prepare the Way,  HOPE, and PEACE

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Be At Peace

Last week, we discussed the gift of Hope as we lit our first Advent candle. This week, we discover the gift of Peace.

In John 14:27, Jesus said to His disciples, Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

Why would Jesus feel the need to give them Peace?

Because Jesus knew what was coming. He knew what He was about to endure in the coming days – suffering and death. He also knew what His followers would endure in the coming months and years as the Church was being formed. And yet, He didn’t just tell them, “it will going to be ok,” or that there wouldn’t be any trouble. Instead, He said, “In the midst of all that is happening, I give you my peace. No matter what circumstance you may face, my peace is with you.

In the beginning of John 14, Jesus said, “Do not let your hearts be troubled”. In other words- Don’t worry, I’ve already got all your bases covered. Then, he began to give them these assurances:

I am preparing a place for you, and I will come back for you.

You may not know where I am going, but you know the way to get there . I am the Way to get there. In other words, there is more to life than simply what’s going on right now. What’s going on right now is temporary. There’s so much more! You can’t even begin to imagine how good it is going to be. So, be at Peace.

He also said, I am in the Father and the Father is in me.

As Christianity would develop and form over the next several centuries, there would be false doctrines and teachers who would attempt to warp the very identity of Jesus by saying that He wasn’t really God, or that He wasn’t really human. However, the disciples could remember back to Jesus’ words and be confident that He was both God and man. He was who He said He was. So, be at Peace.

Then, He told them, “You will do greater works.”

In other words, Jesus said, “You’ve seen me do some wonderful things. But after I go away, you are going to do even more amazing things. Just wait till you see what I can accomplish through you.  Your life here has purpose and meaning as you glorify my name and accomplish my will. So, be at Peace.

Then He said “The Spirit of Truth will be in you.”

After I leave You will have an Advocate, a Counselor, who will show you all things and teach you in all things. You won’t be doing this alone. The Comforter will help you. So, be at Peace.

You see, Jesus didn’t try to take away the trouble they would go through. He didn’t tell them it was going to be easy. But, He gave them His peace so they could walk in it, knowing that in the end, all things will be made right. Through these assurances, they were able to walk in His Peace because they could rest in the fact that His peace would carry through them through every circumstance.


In Isaiah 26:3, We read this promise, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.

No matter what circumstance you are going through, no matter what trials you face, no matter what task God has called you to carry out, He is faithful to keep you walking in peace as you stay focused on Him. this kind of peace can only be found through faith in Jesus Christ. Only He can give you this kind of everlasting Peace.

And so, through this Advent celebration, as we are waiting for the return of Jesus Christ, our King, Let us not be worried. Let us not be afraid.

Instead, let us be at Peace. Amen.


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Eagerly Waiting for HOPE

During Advent, we remember the first coming of Christ while we are faithfully waiting for the second coming of Christ. In chapter 2 of the Gospel of Luke, we read about two living examples of faithful waiting  – Simeon and Anna.

 At that time there was a man in Jerusalem named Simeon. He was righteous and devout and was eagerly waiting for the Messiah to come and rescue Israel. The Holy Spirit was upon him 26 and had revealed to him that he would not die until he had seen the Lord’s Messiah. 27 That day the Spirit led him to the Temple. So when Mary and Joseph came to present the baby Jesus to the Lord as the law required, 28 Simeon was there. He took the child in his arms and praised God, saying,

29 “Sovereign Lord, now let your servant die in peace,
as you have promised.
30 I have seen your salvation,
31     which you have prepared for all people.
32 He is a light to reveal God to the nations,
and he is the glory of your people Israel!”

33 Jesus’ parents were amazed at what was being said about him. 34 Then Simeon blessed them, and he said to Mary, the baby’s mother, “This child is destined to cause many in Israel to fall, and many others to rise. He has been sent as a sign from God, but many will oppose him. 35 As a result, the deepest thoughts of many hearts will be revealed. And a sword will pierce your very soul.”

36 Anna, a prophet, was also there in the Temple. She was the daughter of Phanuel from the tribe of Asher, and she was very old. Her husband died when they had been married only seven years. 37 Then she lived as a widow to the age of eighty-four.[a] She never left the Temple but stayed there day and night, worshiping God with fasting and prayer.38 She came along just as Simeon was talking with Mary and Joseph, and she began praising God. She talked about the child to everyone who had been waiting expectantly for God to rescue Jerusalem. Luke 2:25-38

In Luke 2:25-38, Simeon and Anna were eagerly waiting to see Israel’s Messiah. Their eager waiting was fulfilled in the birth of Jesus Christ.

Simeon was righteous and devout as he lived his life for God. He waited for the promise given by the Holy Spirit that he would one day see the Messiah. His relationship with God, and his faith that God would keep his promise kept his hope alive all those years until finally he saw it with his own eyes.

Anna lost her husband after only 7 years of marriage. She probably could have remarried, but she didn’t. She spent the rest of her life praying and worshipping at the temple. She pursued God with a fierce dedication. As soon as she saw the child, she knew the promised Messiah had come. She told everyone who had been expectantly waiting for the Messiah about the child as she declared this hope. Surely, God had kept his promise.


Simeon walked so closely with God that he was promised to see the Messiah. Anna walked so closely with God that when she recognized the Messiah, she told everyone about him so they could have hope too. They had waited all their long lives to see God’s promise fulfilled- salvation. In the end, It was their faith in God’s promise that sustained them during those long years of waiting which fueled their faithfulness, worship, prayer, and fasting. And in turn, their faithfulness, worship, prayer, and fasting fueled their faith as they waited.

While we are waiting for Christ to return, the season of Advent reminds us to be hopeful.

Hope comes from something more than just wishing for the best. “If I just keep hoping, everything’s going to work out fine.” No, rather Hope is connected to our faith as we eagerly wait.

We should not ask “what are we hoping for?” but rather “WHO is our hope?” Jesus is our Hope.

J.I. Packer says “The Christmas message is that there is hope for a ruined humanity– hope of pardon, hope of peace with God, hope of glory–because at the Father’s will Jesus became poor, and was born in a stable so that thirty years later He might hang on a cross.”

Just as Jesus fulfilled the promise of His first coming. We can have hope in the promise of His second coming. While we are waiting, we can be like Simeon and Anna living a life dedicated to walking with God in prayer and in worship. This kind of life fuels our faith to keep believing, to keep hope alive, like Simeon and Anna, until we see the Messiah with our own eyes.

What are you waiting for?

Fuel your faith to keep eagerly waiting through you prayer, worship, and faithfulness!


Prepare the Way for Advent

Advent was not part of my church experience growing up. I really didn’t know what it was all about until a handful of years ago. Since participating in the observance of Advent in the last 10 years, I’ve come to appreciate the beauty of this penitential season. Advent is a 4 week series of reflections that remembers the first coming of Christ through the Nativity story while it reminds us to stay watchful for the second coming of Christ. Advent calls us to slow down and to focus on why we are remembering and celebrating. Before we can truly appreciate the celebration of Christmas and Immanuel, God with us, we must prepare our hearts through the observance of Advent.

Even still, with the busyness of life around me, it’s hard to focus myself and give the full attention that Advent deserves. So preparing my heart to be ready to hear and receive the gifts of Advent are necessary.

Preparing the way for Advent leads me to think about John the Baptist in the Gospels. He was a voice calling out in the wilderness-

“Prepare the way for the Lord, make straight paths for him. Every valley shall be filled in, every mountain and hill made low. The crooked roads shall become straight, the rough ways smooth. And all the people will see God’s salvation.” Isaiah 40:3-5


John’s mission was to prepare the people to receive Jesus. The Preparation he called them to was repentance.

I believe that’s how we prepare the way for us to receive God’s gifts during Advent. Preparing the way means repentance through examining our hearts.

This past week while at home for Thanksgiving break, one of the ways we prepared for Christmas was to clean out some closets for unwanted, unused, and broken stuff. We got rid of clothes that were too small and worn out, and we, well, I organized drawers and closets to straighten out what had gotten messy and out of order.

We got rid of several bags of stuff, and once it was over, I was able to take inventory of what kind of items were needed for these growing kids of mine!

John the Baptist is calling me to do the same thing in my heart.

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Getting up to the mountain to pray

What is it in my life that is unused, broken, needs throwing out so I can make room for what I need. I can’t see what I need when there’s too much spiritual or emotional clutter blocking the way. I can’t receive the gifts God is waiting to give me when my life is blocked by sin.

When John is quoting Isaiah to make straight the paths, for valleys to be filled in, mountains made low, and rough ways made smooth, he meant get rid of anything that is getting in the way of God’s revelation of Himself to you.

Is there anything that stands between you and God? Is there any sin?

Even more obscure and subtle, are there negative attitudes towards another person? Unforgiveness?  Unresolved reconciliation? Fear?

What are the quiet, unfinished issues that sit in the corner of your heart content to remain unmoved and undisturbed while they fiercely take root in your spirit?

Those are the sins John called the people to repent of so they can experience Jesus. Those same sins are the ones we need to repent of so that we can experience Advent in a fresh and meaningful way. Otherwise, we’ll be subject to another holiday season of shopping, decorating, baking, wrapping then rinse and repeat while not really experiencing the Hope, Peace, Love and Joy promised to us through Immanuel.

Won’t you join me in preparing the way for Advent this holiday season through repentance and self-examination?

Make ready your heart, make ready your home, make ready the people of God through repenting of what stands between you and Jesus Christ.

Father, I confess the sins, attitudes, fears and issues that are cluttering my life and creating obstacles between myself and experiencing the fullness of Your Presence. Please forgive me, and remove these obstacles from my spirit and my life as only You can do. Prepare my heart to receive your hope, peace, love, and joy in order to experience the fullness of Christ as we remember His First Coming and are eagerly awaiting His Second Coming. In Jesus Name, Amen

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What will you do when there’s a Flood?

We’ve been talking about how God can use simple people to do great things for Him.

But, it seems like there is so much bad stuff going on. Persecution and suffering around the world seem like a flood. It feels like the enemy is in overdrive to bring as much evil and heartache to the world. You feel it too, right?

We must remind ourselves, however, of Isaiah 59:19….

When the enemy comes in like a flood, the Spirit of God will lift up a standard against it.

God promises that when the enemy floods our lives that He will lift up a standard against the flood.

What’s the standard? The standard is an opposing force that will stop the flood.

Who is the standard? Jesus Christ is the standard. God is promising that He will lift up Christ in the midst of this overwhelming flood from the enemy.

But How is God going to lift this standard of Christ? Through us. The Body of Christ. His Body- The Church. We are the ones who God will use to facilitate, administer, and activate the standard in the midst of the flood.


God will use us to bring Christ to the world to stop this flood of evil.

But we aren’t going to infiltrate by marching in a parade wearing offensive hats?!? We aren’t going to be bossy, mean, demanding, or demeaning .

How are we going to do this? Only like godly women can!

Just like the Women of Courage from the Bible, we will lift this Standard with wisdom, love, the peace and joy of God, not by might or power but by His Spirit (Zechariah 4:6) We will lift this standard against the enemy’s flood when we……

birth babies like midwives when Pharaoh tells us not to

when put that baby in a boat and send him down the river like Jochebed

when we become queen like Esther influencing the heart of the king from within the castle

when we plead on our husbands behalf like Abigail

when we submit to the angel bearing the Good News like Mary

when we tell those around us ‘I’ve just seen Jesus’ like Mary Magdalene’!

We will lift the Standard of Christ when we teach children to read and speak, advocate for abused and neglected children, support people with disabilities, meet the needs of the sick and elderly, raise your children and grandchildren, care for your parents or spouse, teach SS, or lead VBS or make meals or work in the nursery……the list goes on and on….

We are going to love, encourage, speak truth, share joy and peace. We are going to be Salt and make people thirsty for the Gospel, and we’re going to be Light and shine the Glory of God in dark places for the glory of His name!!!

That’s how we will be Women of Courage to lift up the standard of Christ when the enemy comes in like a flood to hurt God’s people.

The enemy may see it as small, but God sees our service as big, bold, mighty acts. When you are a Women of Courage like this, you are Big Giants of the Faith. God wants to use YOU to stop the evil flood in this world!


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What Keeps Me From Loving Others Well?

Recently, the reality of my heart was exposed when God gently pointed out how I am not loving others quite as well as I could be. He revealed that my serving in ministry was more from my ability and skill rather than from an overflow of love.

So I asked myself another question: What keeps me from loving others well?

If Paul tells how ineffective my ministry is without love (I Cor 13), then John reveals to me what’s keeping me from loving well.

Do not love this world nor the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. 16 For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world. 17 And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever. 1 John 2:15-17

The letter of the apostle John tells us over and over that we need to love each other. He tells us that loving each other is a pretty good indicator that we love God.

If I find that I’m not as loving as I should be, there’s a problem somewhere. In the 2nd chapter of John’s letter, I find that a love for the world is short circuiting my love for people and for God- “for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you”

How am I loving the world?

Craving for physical pleasure– Do I pursue what tastes good, what feels good, what looks good? Am I looking for instant gratification? Am I pursuing what will meet my physical needs over what is best for my spiritual needs? Is the pursuit of my physical needs keeping me from doing the things that will increase my love for God?

Pursuing physical pleasures includes the big, bad sins we think of at first. It’s easy to think of the ones that destroy your life in an instant and have drastic consequences ( affairs, drugs, stealing, etc) But what about the physical pleasures that are subtle and more socially acceptable? Too much shopping, Netflix binging, or emotional eating? How about gossiping or criticising or controlling? We get physical pleasure from these things because they feed our flesh. Anything that keeps us from pursuing God, even if it’s a good thing, is going to increase our love for the world.

Craving for everything we see– Do I want the latest gadget? Do I want the latest clothes and shoes? Am I keeping up with the latest social media trends? Is my pursuit of all things material and temporal keeping me from pursuing what will truly last forever in eternity?

The things we see and the material world we live in are not going to last forever. The old cliche is true- You can’t take it with you. What will last forever are things that money cannot buy: Love, joy, peace and all the fruit of the Spirit! But, we live in a world of instant gratification so it can be really hard to hold off on the newest thing we want now in order for something better, more eternal later.

Pride in our achievements and possessions– Do I take pride in what I do over whom I love? Is it more important for me to get something done, to set a goal and accomplish a task than it is to love someone? Is being successful and looking good in other people’s eyes more important than loving the person it benefits?

Believe me, it’s easy to fall into this trap. I can look back through the years and see how I’ve volunteered for stuff because I wanted people to think highly of me for all the great things I accomplished. I wanted the success and pat on the back for a job well done. The only reward I’ll get is the pat on the back and the applause I received in that moment.

That’s what Jesus said. Those who do stuff for the sake of men, for recognition and applause, that’s all the reward they will ever get. But those who work and serve with humility and serve without needing to be seen, their reward will be eternal.

If these motivations are what’s driving my ministry, then the world’s kind of love is the gas that’s in my tank. Having the world’s kind of love is ultimately self serving. It wants what’s best for me. It wants me to feel good and feeds the ego of my flesh. And that’s why if I love the world, the love of God is not in me.

Love for the world and love for God cannot coexist. They cannot occupy the same space.

Instead, how can we increase our love for God?

Love the Lord with all your heart soul mind and strength

Love your neighbor as yourself.

Follow His commands.

Feed His sheep.

Jesus Christ Monument
Jesus Christ Monument, Swiebodzin, Poland

These pursuits of True Love are not easy. We must fight our flesh and the temptations of the world the entire way. It’s worth it, though. It’s deeply satisfying. When we do these things, our love for God grows while our love for people grows with it.

Love for God and love for people can coexist. In fact, they must or our love isn’t real.

What’s keeping you from loving others well?

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We Belong to Each Other

I’ve written recently on Why We Need to be More Interdenominational. Now more than ever, I’m convinced we must be more about building the Kingdom of God than our own denominations. In light of the increasing persecution around the world of Christians (read about the recent International Day of Pray), we can’t just focus on our local congregation. We must be mindful of those being hurt and killed for their faith around the world and especially in our own county. Being more concerned about the world-wide Church begins with building more  unity with local churches around us.

(If you know my story, you know that I am a Heinz 57 mutt of denominations…..so, I am not against denominations). So, I do believe building His Kingdom happens better when we are unified.

Roman 12:3-5 “Because of the privilege and authority God has given me, I give each of you this warning: Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us. Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other.”

Sometimes, we get in our church box where it’s comfortable and familiar, and we might have the tendency to start comparing our brand of church to other churches….that’s like comparing apples to oranges. Instead we need to compare our fellowship by the faith that God has given us. Are we fulfilling the specific mission that God has called us to do?

The reason we shouldn’t compare each other’s churches is because we each have a special function and purpose within the Body of Christ. Each part has its own way of ministering to and reaching all different kinds of people. So, it’s ok for us to have our own functions and missions as long as we remember that these differences are meant to compliment each other instead of divide us.


When we realize that we are all parts of One Body, then we’re going to see that “we all belong to each other.


See, Jesus doesn’t see us as separate parts. He sees us as One Body….His Body.

With this uplifting perspective, we don’t have to compare our ministries or fellowships. We can support and cheer for each other and work together because we are all working for the common goal of building His Kingdom!

If fact, Jesus prayed that we’d all be one:

John 17: 20 “I am praying not only for these disciples but also for all who will ever believe in me through their message. 21 I pray that they will all be one, just as you and I are one—as you are in me, Father, and I am in you. And may they be in us so that the world will believe you sent me.

22 “I have given them the glory you gave me, so they may be one as we are one. 23 I am in them and you are in me. May they experience such perfect unity that the world will know that you sent me and that you love them as much as you love me”

We belong to each other! If you believe in Jesus Christ, you are my sister and let’s be about the Father’s business building the Kingdom of God!


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All of You…Together

1 Corinthians 3:16-23

16 Don’t you realize that all of you together are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God lives in[a] you? 17 God will destroy anyone who destroys this temple. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.18 Stop deceiving yourselves. If you think you are wise by this world’s standards, you need to become a fool to be truly wise. 19 For the wisdom of this world is foolishness to God. As the Scriptures say,“He traps the wise    in the snare of their own cleverness.”[b20 And again,“The Lord knows the thoughts of the wise;    he knows they are worthless.”[c]

21 So don’t boast about following a particular human leader. For everything belongs to you— 22 whether Paul or Apollos or Peter,[d] or the world, or life and death, or the present and the future. Everything belongs to you, 23 and you belong to Christ, and Christ belongs to God.

Women of the Way 2013

Why does Women of the Way gather to study and fellowship together?

All of you together are the Body of Christ.

All of you together are the Church of God.

All of you together are the Bride of Christ.

 We are stronger when we are unified. We are more effective when we work together.  We are One when we love each other.

Our theological and doctrinal differences are minor in light of the children going hungry, the women enslaved for their bodies, the missionaries enduring persecution, or the nations without the Scriptures in their native language…all of whom need a Savior.

So let us step out of our neat little boxes that we retreat to on Sundays. Let us break out of the comfort zones of our hymns, bulletins, and worship songs. Let us be the hands and feet of Jesus to the world outside beyond the particular sign over the door.

“We are One in the Spirit, We are One in the Lord, and they’ll know we are Christians by our love”bodyofChrist



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When I’m shaken loose from my self-induced delusion that I have it so tough…..

I am so surprised at how easily and over the silliest things I can turn into a grumbling complainer spewing discontent and criticizing everything around me that doesn’t go my way. I feel so “burdened” with having to be at work early or the can opener isn’t working right or the dryer is giving me fits. Heaven forbid…..I get behind a slow driver who can’t drive in the rain! Some days, it seems like the least little thing can bump me and nothing good spills out.

I feel so persecuted (insert whiney tone)…….But then, I am set straight by a day like today……

International Day of Prayer for the Persecuted Church.

I hear just a drop of the true suffering going on in the world. Suffering for bearing the name of Christ. True persecution for bringing Light into darkness and Hope into hopeless situations.

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I am shaken loose of my self-induced delusion that I have it so tough. I realize that my present “troubles” are nothing compared to the life-threatening, dyer situations of many around me and of those around the world.

God, help me to be thankful in every circumstance. Help me to lift up believers, both near and far. Help me to care for the Body of Christ rather than just looking our for myself. Amen

In light of all the tragedy going on around us, what can we do? We can become more unified as the Body of Christ. If you want some ideas on how you can accomplish this, I’ve got some resources for you! Sign up for “How to be More Interdenominational” and other good stuff here.


Love Where you Live

Would you rather be working somewhere else? Would you rather be living somewhere else? Are you wishing your ministry was not this and more like that?

Are you praying “God, Anything. But. This!”

I know how you feel. Yes, Sister, I know. Sometimes life just doesn’t turn out the way you had planned.

Rewind, with me, back to 2008.

Everything was going as planned. I had my children. I was staying home doing the mom thing because I had quit work when I was pregnant. It wasn’t easy. In fact, it was WAY harder than I ever thought it would be. Yes, there were many, many days it was all I could do to survive. But it was what I always dreamed I would do.Everything was going great.

And then it wasn’t.

The week the triplets turned 1 year old, my husband lost his job. We had one 3 year old and three 1 year old babies. Say what?? For over a year, he applied for 90+ jobs. Try as he may, he was not able to land a one of them! We managed to survive. It was actually a huge blessing for both of us to be home with all those babies, but that’s another story for another day.

With little other options in 2009, my boss welcomed me back to my old position at work.  In fact, she carved out a space for me so that I could work. So, I packed my lunch and headed off to school while my husband took over the mini-van, the diapers, and the sippy cups.

I went kicking and screaming the whole way. I was so mad and hurt and disappointed and frustrated…….and mad. Did I say I was mad?

Fast forward to about 2012.  I’m doing my job, we are surviving, hubby is a great daddy. On the outside, I’m doing pretty good with my job. I do really like what I do, and I feel I’m pretty good at it. On the inside though, I’m whining and still stamping my foot when I pray to God. I wish I were doing something different….smh! Not only do I wish I were at home with the kids, but I still had other dreams I wished I were doing….dreams of music and ministry…doing ‘big things’ for God. But those dreams were not happening. I was doing my day job because that’s what my family needed me to do.

I realized it’s very likely that my circumstances were not going to change any time soon. But, the one thing I could change was my attitude about my circumstances. I decided I was going to be more thankful to God for where I was than to resent Him for where I was not. I decided to see my job as the ministry in which God had placed me for this season of life rather than pining away for the life I wish I had. I was going to recognize the HUGE blessings I had right before me

It didn’t happen immediately. It didn’t happen overnight. But slowly, ever so slowly, I began to appreciate the opportunities in my life. I began to thank Him for the blessings and provision He had given us. I began to enjoy this work where I was placed.

I had finally become content. I had finally learned to “love where I live”. Being content in and of itself is a gift because it brings peace.IMAG1189

Surprisingly, in the middle of my contentment, another unexpected turn. The opportunity to lead in ministry at my church became available to me. I wasn’t looking for it. I wasn’t trying to make it happen. I never thought I’d get to do something like this ever again. But it did, and I am so very, very thankful!

Learning to be content doesn’t mean you give up on dreams or desires. Contentment doesn’t mean you stop longing and praying. It doesn’t mean you give up. But contentment does mean choosing gratitude for your circumstances and trust in God’s Sovereignty for this season in life. While in the waiting and in the thanking and in the trusting, God, in His goodness, will often fulfill some of those other desires in the process in ways you wouldn’t have ever imagined!

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understand. In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight” Prov 3:5-6

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Love Where You Live,


If I Don’t Have Love, Then, I’m This….

If I don’t have love, then I’m no better than a clanging cymbal.

A few weeks ago, I attended a community event. Praying after the event, I asked for God’s favor over some projects in which I am involved so they would be successful. I didn’t have any hesitation asking for this favor. I prayed confidently because I asked on behalf of the people whom these projects would benefit. But then, I heard this:

Do you love them?

Immediately, I knew my true motives were exposed. I wanted the projects to be successful so that I would be successful. Of course, I wanted those people to benefit, but what I really wanted was for this thing I’ve created to be successful in the eyes of the community.

My thoughts went back to 1 Corinthians 13:

If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing. 1 Cor 13:1-3

The famous chapter on love has always inspired me. This particular evening, the beloved chapter revealed fresh meaning. Here’s my fresh interpretation:

If I have the skills to organize, teach, speak, sing, and lead- to do all the tasks that I have trained for and learned to do…if I do all the things I have been given talent to do…but I don’t love the people I am doing it for….IT IS ALL FOR NOTHING.

I realized my participation in these community projects wasn’t purely out of love. Rather, my contribution was because I like it, I am capable of it, and I have the ability to get it done. Also, I enjoy it. Of course, I want the people to benefit, and I want to make a difference. But, at the heart of my motivation lies the truth- I want to be successful.


Last week, I wrote about ministry not being about me and how I shouldn’t serve simply because I like it or I’m good at it or it makes me feel good. I should do all those things ultimately because I love the people I’m doing it for, not just because I like what I’m doing.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t enjoy our ministries. Our motivation, however, shouldn’t be because we like what we’re doing. If we’re not in it for the love of people, it’s just a clanging cymbal.

God’s final measurement of effectiveness is love. God’s definition of success is love.

That’s what the classic love chapter is trying to tell us. If we can accomplish all manner of spiritual feats but don’t have love, it’s just noise. If we give our entire lives to serving and volunteering at church or in the community, and don’t have love, we have gained nothing. 


Only Love lasts forever!

What is the motivating force behind your ministry? Are you loving what you do more than loving the people that receive the ministry?

Father, forgive me for loving your gifts and talents and the things I do for You more than the people that benefit. Fill me to overflowing with love for others just as I have experienced Your Love for me! Let my effectiveness and success be measured in love! Amen

If you are interested in exploring your motivations in ministry, here’s a bible study where I ask three questions (I have asked myself these questions) about loving God and loving people more than ministry. I hope it’s helpful to you!

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Ministry is Not About Me

I’ve been doing church ministry most of my life in some form or another- about 30 years, give or take.

Even though I’ve been doing this all my life, I’ve been guilty of taking my eyes off the true purpose and goal of serving in the church. If I’m not careful, I can start to view ministry as this trophy that I’ve earned as a badge of honor. I’m tempted to take my trophy and put it up on a high shelf for all to see how much good I’m doing in my ministry.

Of course, I have sincere intentions. Yes, I want God to be glorified by my ministry. I want God to have the place of honor like the top of the trophy has a shiny star or golden statue. But, if I were really honest, I also want my ministry to be the be the pedestal on which that trophy is placed. My ministry grows out of proportion as my focus gets too big on myself and overshadows the real purpose of the trophy.


Then, something doesn’t go right. Something doesn’t feel right.

I don’t feel as effective in my ministry. I don’t get recognized as doing a good job. Or, people don’t seem to be getting anything out of my serving or contribution. At least, that’s how it seems. Am I’m losing my touch?

This causes me to step back and ask some questions. Why am I doing ministry? Am I still called to serve in this way? Does God still want me in this ministry?

It’s time to get honest. It’s time to peel back the layers and discover the motivations for why I do ministry. It’s time to examine this trophy I’ve created to see what lies at the heart of it.

Prayerfully, I seek God for the answers. And, He graciously, lovingly gives them.

Ministry is not about me.


First, Ministry is not about what I like to do.

The purpose of my serving in ministry shouldn’t be because it’s something I’m passionate about doing. True, one’s greatest ministry can take place where there is great passion. It’s totally ok to be passionate about serving, but it shouldn’t be the motivation for why I’m participating.

Take, for example, planning retreats and conferences for women. I LOVE it. I love all aspects of it- the planning, the details, shaping a schedule, bringing women together for a specially crafted time together…..all done by me!

I have to stop and ask myself this question: Do I love planning the event, and everyone telling it was great, and that I am great? OR Do I want these women to have a sincere encounter with God? The first makes my ministry the focus of the “trophy”, and the second makes the focus on God and His Glory.

Second, Ministry is not about my gifts, skills, or talents.

I love playing music and singing so I’ll do that for ministry. I love teaching, so I’ll teach. I love cooking, so I’ll cook as my ministry and so on. God has given me some wonderful talents and abilities. I have been given the opportunities to develop skills to be used for Him. But, ministry is not a venue for using my skills and talents. Ministry is not supposed to be a place to display my gifts on a platform. Again, the subtle trap I fall into is that using my gifts for others to see ends up being my goal. I may not say this out loud, but it’s in my heart. Again, God generously gives gifts and talents to equip me for ministry, but those gifts are not the primary purpose of ministry. They aren’t meant to be seen for their own sake. Those gifts, skills and talents are meant to be used as the vehicle for loving people and lighting their way to God’s Glory.

Women of the Way 2018

Finally, ministry is not about making me feel good or special or admired or accepted.

Somewhere deep down, if I’m really honest, I bring to light what I’m really thinking and feeling. If I do this ministry, I’ll feel good about myself. God will accept me. I’ll get accepted by all those people around me. This trap is the biggest and easiest of them all, because I want my ‘trophy’ to get the most attention. I do ministry because I want to feel better about myself. Sure, I want to do this for God, and I want to help people. But, I also want to be liked or admired for doing it. I want to feel successful and useful. I want people to cheer for me. Somehow, when they do this, it must mean that God approves!

In truth, all those benefits can and do happen. God is so gracious. He allows me to reap all the benefits of working for Him. But then, I forget what’s it supposed to be all about. I forget the goal of ministry is not to make me feel good. The goal is to bring people to God!

True ministry is an overflow from being with God.


I spend time with God, and then He uses my gifts and talents as a vehicle to get His Love to other people. The cool bonus is that I really love it, and it makes me feel good doing it. The real payoff, though, is seeing God move and standing amazed at what He can accomplish through me. My true motivation, then,  for pursuing ministry is to see other people’s lives changed! When that happens, I don’t need for my ministry trophy to be seen! I push that trophy back to its proper place so that God gets all the glory and attention!

What about you?

Do you love ministry? Do you love what you do in church? If you were honest, would it be possible that some of your motivations could be self serving and trying to promote your own trophy?

Would you like to pursue this self examination further?

Here’s a small study series called “3 Signs You Need to ReNew Your Ministry”. In it, I ask you 3 questions to help you reflect on why you are serving in the church. This study is an overflow of asking myself these same questions in order to put my ministry in its proper place. I hope it’s helpful to you! Sign up here: “3 Signs You Need to ReNew Your Ministry”





Are you using God instead of getting to know God?

Sometimes, I find it hard to read the Gospels. I grew up hearing and reading all the stories of Jesus. They feel so familiar. I scim over the passages because I’ve heard them over and over again. I don’t see anything new, so I keep going to something else.

Photo credit Julie Anna Johnson, WoW2013

I find, in recent years, I lean towards reading other passages of Scripture like the letters, proverbs and psalms. I asked myself this question. “Why do I have such a hard time reading the Gospels?”Here’s what came back to me:

Often, I’m reading Scripture to see what I can get out of it for myself.

As a “good” Christian disciple, I study the Bible looking for what’s going to help me be more Christ-like.  What can I apply to my life? What’s going to make me feel joy and live in peace? That’s what we’re supposed to do, right? The Bible is our guide, our road map, our instruction manual. We are supposed to be learning, absorbing, digesting the Word of God and living it out! I do. I love it!

When it comes to the Gospels, however, the focus is solely on Jesus. Yes, so much truth and teaching can be harvested and gathered for me to apply to my life. I’m not diminishing that at all. They show us who Jesus is, how he lived, his example for us to follow.

But sometimes, I need to simply read the Bible just to get to know Jesus- that’s it!

So, that makes me ask another question, “In other areas of Christian life, how much of what we do is for God, or is it for us?”

Music…do you listen to that Christian music because it makes you feel good or is it bringing you into God’s presence?

Church….do you go to church to see what you can get out of it or what the service can do for you? Or, do you prepare yourself for what you can give at church?

Bible studies, volunteering, attending classes, events, communion…do you do all those activities because of what it can do for you or how it makes you feel?

In ministry, are you studying, praying, searching for only what you can use in your sermon or your class? Do you consume Christian material only so you can have something to output?

If we’re not careful, those of us who live in a Christianized culture can fall into the rut of doing these good and right activities because that’s what is expected of us as “good Christians”. We can do these things out of obligation or “that’s just what we do” mentality. We might even be selfishly thinking ‘What’s in it for me?’ We can get too focused on what we’re doing and forget about Who or Why we’re do it. Sounds a bit like the religious Pharisees, doesn’t it? ouch.

I’m guilty of this……I’ll read an article and reference it for a blog post. I’ll hear something on the radio and think ‘I’ll use that in my Wed class’. I’ll hear somebody say something and I’ll think ‘that will be good for the next worship service’.


Of course, all these activities, disciplines, and pursuits are what we’re supposed to be doing. Of course, we need these disciplines to keep us going in the right direction. We’re always going to be human, and we need these tangibles to help us develop a relationship with God. I’m not suggesting we throw out our studies, music, or activities. No! We need to do these things….yes God grows us and develops us. And YES, we are supposed to seek Him for what to say and do in life and in ministry. He uses all of these practices to communicate in us and through us. But be careful not to fall into the rut of using these things solely for your benefit.

If you find that you might be using God instead of knowing God, I’ve written a Bible study that could help:

3 Signs You Need to ReNew Your Ministry


This short study sent to you by a series of emails will help you examine your relationship with God, your ministry, and those around you. It will give you some encouragement in knowing Jesus better.  You will have a better understanding of how your relationship with God is the driving force behind your ministry and how that ties into loving people.

I’d love for you to join me! Sign up here for this *free* Bible Study.

I’m looking forward to getting to know Jesus better. Hope you are too!


How I learned not to need ministry more than God….

I don’t need ministry anymore, and I’ve never been more fulfilled!!

Stay with me…..

Early on in my 20’s, I was such a zealous thing. I grew up in a family where our lives revolved around ministry, and I loved it! I was the good-girl, preacher’s kid who didn’t rebel. I wanted more than anything to sing, teach, volunteer….anything! I genuinely wanted to serve God in a real and effective way.

Looking back, though, I was also striving. Hard. I wanted so badly to prove how much I loved and was dedicated to God. I sincerely thought that if I did all the right things…especially ministry, I’d make Him happy with me. I hoped to do enough, to be enough, so I could be accepted enough.

Photo credit: Nancy Rutledge

As much as I loved ministry…I also needed it to prove myself acceptable. Somehow, people’s approval fueled my efforts and my need for affirmation. People’s approval equated God’s approval which also stirred the battle between insecurity and pride.

Slowly, but surely…..through years of learning how much God loves me and not needing to earn God’s approval, my perspective on ministry changed. I’ve grown into realizing that ministry is the fruit of what flows out of my relationship with God. Not the other way around! Ministry is the overflow of what God is doing in me, not what I can do to prove my faithfulness to Him.

I didn’t realize this maturing process was even happening. A few years ago, I was able to fill in for the worship leader at the church we had just began attending. She had experienced a personal tragedy and needed to take some time off from leading worship to recover. So, I was asked to fill in and was more than happy to do for her and the church. She was my friend, and I wanted to help her in any way I could. To my surprise, this temporary fill-in turned into a regular gig.

When this opportunity was laid before me, something very special became apparent….I didn’t need this ministry opportunity. I was excited and thrilled because I never thought I would get an opportunity like this! I thought my music days were over. But rather than this chance at ministry scratching some itch rooted in my ego or insecurity, or striving to make me more acceptable to God, it simply made me thankful to God that the door was open. Ministry could overflow because I didn’t need it anymore!!!

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Photo credit: Nancy Rutledge

Do you feel like you serve in your ministry out of need or out of overflow? Do you find that sometimes you love your ministry more than God?

Are you asking yourself, “Am I using God or getting to know God?”

If so, I have written a short Bible study to help you answer questions like this. This email study that comes right into your inbox, 3 Signs You Need to ReNew Your Ministry, will help you examine your relationship with God and how this affects your ministry and your relationship with people. It will help you reflect on your priorities and motivations in ministry and help you gain a clearer understanding for your purpose in ministry.


If you feel you need your ministry a little too much, please join me on this journey together. Once you discover how you don’t need your ministry, then you’ll be effective than ever in the overflowing work God has invited you to do!

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What Keeps You From Intimacy with God?

What God wants most is your heart.

He is actively pursuing you. He has made a way for you to have an eternal relationship with Him. He knows you better than you know yourself.

So, what’s keeping you from intimacy with God?

In the name of being a good Christian, we do a lot of things for God. We do a lot of good things in the name of God. We somehow think if we check off all the right boxes of good behavior that God will be satisfied. At the very least, we do them because it’s what we’ve always done (if we’ve grown up in church or gone to church our whole lives).

Go to church. Check.

Pay tithes. Check.

Go to Bible study. Check.

Volunteer for Children’s Church. Check.

Cook meal for family. Check.

Read Bible. Check.

For a lot of people, they don’t even do everything that’s on this list, but that’s another issue for another day.

We do this Christian Checklist thinking this will make God happy. We’ve done our Christian duty, and we’re good to go.

But then something is missing deep in our souls which may even make us wonder if this Church thing is all there is. We long for more but can’t really put our fingers on it as to what’s missing.

Peter Scazzero calls this “Using God to run from God”- doing all the Christian things for the sake of God, all the while, not really having a deep relationship with God.

God never meant for it to be this way. Even in the Garden of Eden, God longed to walk with Adam and Eve in the cool of the day. Then, the Fall happened, and they hid from God.  The whole epic story of the Bible has been how God intends to bring everything back to that initial state of intimacy.

How do you hide from God? How do you run from God? How do you keep God at arm’s length?

There are lots of reasons why someone would keep from God. Some deep questions that lie behind our arm’s length distance might be- “Can God be trusted?” “Is God good?” “Does God really want me?”

The answer to all those unspoken questions is YES!

But, I can’t convince you this is true. I can’t reason with you until the light bulb goes off in your head.

You’ve got to stop doing for God long enough to BE with God.


(Don’t stop all those good things forever because they ARE good things, ok?)

I challenge you to get in a quiet place with no noise, no distractions, no interruptions and just sit before God. Do nothing but just think about God. Don’t ask for anything. Don’t pray about anything. It’s ok, you can do those things at another time. Just think about God’s Love, His Goodness, His Creation, His Character.

It won’t be easy at first, but it will be worth it.

If you need a some help, here’s a little thing I put together to help you with developing silence and solitude before God. After this week, the Summer Gardening Series will be tucked away until next summer since it’s now feeling like fall. I hope it helps.

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What God wants most of all……

Remember when we talked about how much God delights in us? We also talked about how much God takes delight when we do what we were created to do.

We love to ‘do’ stuff. It makes us feel good when we ‘do’ something. We want to feel productive and successful and useful. It’s in our nature to ‘do’ stuff.

It’s no different when it comes to the worship of God.

We want to be about the business of doing something……so we sing, we serve, we give, we make.

In the process of all this doing, what is supposed to be worship of God becomes a whole lot of busyness. Somehow, a human being becomes a human ‘doing’.


I’ve been guilty of this. I want so much to please God with all the good stuff I can do. I want Him to be happy with all the stuff I can produce as a good Christian should.

But God wants more than that. He wants my heart.

Yes, God wants me to do all those good things. In fact, He’s created me to do all those good things for His Glory. But, He doesn’t NEED me to do those things for Him.

What He wants is my heart. He wants me to just to be with Him. He wants intimacy. It’s hard to have intimacy with God when I’m busy running around doing all the time!

God wants intimacy with you like a husband and wife know each other. Does that seem a little weird? But, it’s true.

Well, how about God wants intimacy like a Father and a child. Yes, God wants that kind of closeness with you.


Even still, God wants to be close to you like two brothers or two best friends.

There are a variety of ways that God describes His desire for intimacy with us, but the bottom line is He wants us to just ‘be’ with Him!

While I’m spending time with God, my mind can race with all the ideas of what I should be doing and all the things I need show accomplish. Even during my prayer, I talking out my plans with God.

But then I try to stop. “Hey Father God……I’m just going to stop and focus on You. You are all that matters right now.”

I have found that when I spend time just being with God it makes the things I do for God more effective. I feel more joyful and the doing flows more easily. It’s not an obligation or burden because being with Him overflows into the things I am doing.

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Getting up to the mountain to pray

One of my favorite worship songs says,

“I’ll bring you more than a song ‘

Cause a song in itself is not what you have required

You search much deeper within through the way things appear

You’re looking in my heart……

I’m coming back to the heart of worship cause it’s all about You,

It’s all about You, Jesus

Do you feel like God wants intimacy with you?

Do you get lost in a whirlwind of busyness and forget to spend time with God?

Are you a human ‘doing’ more than a human ‘being’?

Yes, God loves all those things you do. He made you to do those things to bring Him glory.

But what God wants MOST is to just be with you. What God wants MOST is your heart!

Take the time to be with God.


If you need some ideas on how to be with God, try this little study guide I created. I know, summer is over, and it’s finally fall (yay!) So, this will be the last time I offer the Summer Gardening Series until next summer. It will help you discover some ways to practice being with God. Hope it helps. Sign up here!


God Delights in Me when I do this….

I am a list maker. I really like need to check my responsibilities off my list. I feel productive and effective when I am able to accomplish all the tasks on my list.

If I am not careful, I can make my Christian life a to-do list.

I mentioned before about all the things I’m supposed to do that will make God happy. If I want to please Him, I will make sure I do all the right things.

Read my Bible, pray, go to church, pay my tithes, serve, and volunteer- all these things are on my list.

Yes, all the these things are necessary to sustaining a proper relationship with God. All of these things are good. I enjoy them, and I like them. God is pleased when I do them. Great!

But, what if there was something more?

What if God not only is pleased when I do those good Christian responsibilities, but He is also  happy to see me do other things I’ve been created to do.

I was created to do all those good things. BUT…..there are also many other wonderful, enjoyable things I was also created to do. Stuff just for fun and enjoyment.

There are so many things that I SHOULD be doing, I feel like there’s never enough time for things that I LOVE doing. I am tempted to think that God will only approve if I do my responsibilities.


Here’s the thing: God takes delight when I do what I love.

If I love creating music or baking or reading and if I get a great sense of joy from doing those activities, God takes great delight in my joy!

If my heart and spirit spring to life when I swim or dance, then God’s heart bubbles over when He sees me too!

My daughter started playing volleyball this year, and she really loves it. I told her that when she plays volleyball, it makes God happy to see her enjoying herself. Playing volleyball is worshipping God because she is doing what God created her to do. God delights in seeing her enjoy her sport.

God doesn’t want us to just do what we have to do or what we should do. He wants us to do what we love to do! When we do what we love to do, we are worshipping Him.

Imagine you give your child a special gift. You know this child will really love it because you know your child inside and out. You give it to him, and he loves it. But, the child is so busy doing all the things you told them to do- chores, study, clean up that they don’t feel they have time or should do those activities that might feel frivolous. The child is being dutiful and obedient, exactly what you want them to be. However, that special gift you gave him is stored up in the closet.

One rainy Saturday afternoon, you get the gift out of the closet and sit down with your child to explore it. As you play together, he starts to smile. His eyes light up. Joy breaks out over his face, and his body overflows with excitement! What happens to you? You delight in him because of his joy. You were right! That special gift was exactly what he wanted. What delight!

So, what is it that you love to do?

There is something you love, but you don’t feel like you can give yourself permission to enjoy it. Guess what?

When you don’t do those things that God created you to do, God is missing out on the great pleasure seeing you enjoy the great gift He’s placed in you!

Sure….we have to take care of our responsibilities. And yes, we learn to love the disciplines that cause our spirits to thrive even when our bodies protest. But, God created in us the desire to create and play and have fun so that we can enjoy life. We get so caught up in doing the right things, we run out of time for the fun things!

I love what Eric Liddell says, “God made me fast. And, when I run, I feel His pleasure.”

Take some time to enjoy what you love to do, and feel God’s delight in you!

Do you need some help finding out what you love to do?

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We’re supposed to delight in God, but does He delight in us?

It takes a lifetime to delight in God.

In my effort to live for Him, the struggle against my flesh to do the disciplines I know I’m supposed to do isn’t always easy.

I wrote back in the summer about discipline turning into delight which has been a beautiful journey. Like any relationship it takes intentional thought and practice to delight in someone. With learning any skill, it takes practice and work to develop habits for a quality spiritual journey. It’s worth it because, you know, it’s God.

Sometimes, I’m trying so hard to do Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourselves in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” that I forget something critical. God delights in me too!

I get so wrapped up in myself being the one who is loving God with all my heart that I lose sight of the fact He takes way more delight in loving me!

God delights in me.

In my humanity, I’m trying to work for God’s love and acceptance. So, in my effort to make Him happy with me, I strive to do all the things I’m supposed to do.

Ok, I’ve got to read my bible because if I don’t, God won’t like it. I’ve got to pray or God won’t like it. I’ve got to go to church or God won’t like it. I’ve got to live right or God won’t like it.

But God is not like that.

God doesn’t withhold his favor until I do all the right things waiting for me to get in line in order for Him to be happy. No….

God delights in me.

When I pray , God is delighted. When I say pure words (Prov 15:26), God is delighted. When I have integrity  or am honest , God’s happiness for me bubbles over.

I don’t have to earn His favor. Instead, He cheers for me when I heading in the right direction.

I see it the same as with raising children. I don’t want my kids to do their chores because if they don’t I’m gonna be mad. I want to cheer for them when they’ve done their chores because it was the good and right thing to do. See the difference?

But that’s exactly what they’ve learned from me. “Uh oh, momma is gonna get mad if we don’t get it done”, and it’s obedience based out of fear.

It’s the same way with us and God. “Uh-oh, if I don’t do this, God isn’t gonna like it, and He’s gonna be mad at me.” We’ve got to obey or it’s going to get ugly.

Reading in Proverbs, there are so many verses that state how God delights in us. He delights in us when we pray (Prov 15:8), He delights in us when we are honest (Prov 12:22), He delights in us when have integrity (Prov 11:20).

Finally, I see His loving perspective. God is cheering for me when I do those things that are good for me and draw me closer to Him. He’s not waiting to zap me.

Lazy summer days are the best!
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Is this you?

Are you striving to do right and live right so as not to make God mad or upset?

Here’s the truth: God delights in you. He’s not waiting for you to get it right so He can delight in you. He already does.

And when you do those right and good things that we’re supposed to do as good Christians, you aren’t earning His Favor. He is already cheering for you!

Jesus Christ Monument
Jesus Christ Monument, Swiebodzin, Poland

Take heart-

For the Lord your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.” Zephaniah 3:17

How does this change your spiritual disciplines? How does this change your motivation to seek God?

I hope this encourages you like it has me!

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Would All the MODERN Women of the Way Please Stand Up?

All month long I’ve been talking about how Women of the Way got its name, the very first Women of the Way, and a very inspirational Lincoln County woman who showed us what it means to be a passionate, devoted follower of Christ.

Now, let’s hear from you!

Who are the modern day women that set the example of being passionate and devoted in our time?

Ann Hatcher– Ann Hatcher serves as associate pastor of the Fayetteville First United Methodist Church. She was one of the first to say, “YES” to trying this idea of Women of the Way back in 2012.  Here’s what a friend had to say about Ann: “She simply oozes with the Lord of Jesus. After time with her I leave refreshed, encouraged, feeling like I belong and have a place.”

Ann Hatcher with granddaughter


Tina Hudson– This wonderful lady serves as the administrator for Hope Assembly. She also founded and operates Hands of Mercy, a local food pantry for those in need. I love what was said about her as a Women of the Way: “Compassion flows from her like a river. She brings great strength and stability to those around her and lets His love flow through her!”

Tina Hudson with son, Trevor


Trish Pierson–  Trish serves as the pastor’s wife at Stewart’s Chapel out in Vanntown. She spoke at WoW 2017. Here’s what her friend had to say, “Trish loves Jesus. When she talks about him her face lights up. She is encouraging, loves her husband and her family. She works hard at church, and when there is something that needs to be done, she serves. She teaches women and comes along side of us in pray.”

Trish Pierson with friends.

Elizabeth Chaplin– This young Lincoln County native shared with us back at WoW 2017 about her preparations to do mission work in New Zealand. Her dream is finally taking shape as she left for her post this month on August 11th!

Elizabeth Chaplin
Making her way to New Zealand to share the Good News!

Here is what she says:

I’m having to really reflect on God’s sovereignty in my life and remember truth. I had no clue what I was getting myself into the last two times I went to New Zealand, yet, because all good things come from the God of infinite resources, I was able to do my job and love and point students to Christ. I’ve never been ready. I’ll never be ready. I simply have to be willing to step into what God is calling me to do and trust that He will use me to carry out His plan. Even the best preparations and degrees and courses and book knowledge and experience will fall flat if I am not walking in what God has prepared for me. It’s really comforting and freeing to realize that we are not Christ (John 3:28), and that apart from Him, we are nothing (John 15:5).

A Special E. B.- If you attend the WoW sessions for 2018, you’ll remember a young woman who shared with us her preparations for heading to the mission field in an undisclosed location. She couldn’t tell us much about where she was going and what she was doing with the International Teams organization. She is also a native Lincoln Count *triplet* who inspired that even a small town girl can do big things for God!

In the Field with E. B.
This photo was taken on the field for my confirmation trip with the team. Please pray for the Muslim world to be drawn Jesus! I’d especially ask for prayer over women in Islam who come to faith. God make them courageous!

She said,

Thank you for the opportunity to share just a glimpse of the vision for serving refugee women during WoW 2018. The gifts were a huge blessing and the encouragement from the ladies meant so much to me. I look forward to sharing more of God’s work among courageous women!

All of these women in their own unique way show us what it means to be passionate, devoted followers of Christ. There are so many more too. If I included all the women I knew just in Lincoln County alone, I could write a book about the amazing work God is doing through each of you!

It’s amazing to see how good God is through the beautiful hearts of women like these and so many more!

We’ve been inspired by remembering the first Women of the Way and how they were used to usher in the Kingdom of God. Could it be that those of us in this day and age are called to complete God’s work in His Kingdom? Are we the women who’s passion and devotion will be instrumental in bringing many around the world to Christ in these final days?

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Hebrews 12:1-2

Keep being passionate and devoted. Keep oozing Jesus. Don’t stop pouring love out on the people around you. Go into all the world and spread the Gospel. Be brave and fearless. Bring Christ into every situation He leads you.

Be Women of the Way!


This Lincoln County Woman from history inspires us to be Women of the Way

A very special post…….We’ve been talking about the First Followers of The Way and the First Women of the Way. Angie Gray, co-pastor of The Rock, Fayetteville campus, is sharing about an amazing woman of Lincoln County, Selina Moore Holman. This woman was a wonderful example of being a passionate, devoted follower of Christ in a day when women were expected to stay silent. Angie shares how Selina made a significant impact on her decision to join this wonderful community!


Who Can Find a Woman of Noble Character?

Eight years ago, when we were asked by our pastor to be the campus pastors of the Rock Family Worship Center Fayetteville Campus. I asked my husband to tell him “NO!” I was even angry with God. Why would I want to leave my home and the church family that I dearly loved? I began to research online about this little town called “Fayetteville”. My research revealed the early settlers came from Fayetteville, North Carolina to establish this city. I also discovered that “Fayette” was French for “faith”.  Seriously???…God was introducing me to FAITHville and I knew immediately what that would mean…He was about to take us on a journey of faith as He was calling us to this city of Faith.

So, my journey began with me delving into the rich history of this beautiful city.

As I looked at all of the demographics and researched famous people of Fayetteville, I discovered a courageous woman who made a tremendous impact on this region and even our wonderful state.

Her name was Selina Moore Holman and I truly believe she was a Proverbs 31 woman.

Selina Moore Holman

Selina was born in Dechard, TN in 1850. Her father J.L. Moore was a Captain in the Confederate Army and was killed in battle during the Civil War. She was the oldest of 5 children. She had 3 sisters and 1 infant brother when her father died. Her mother was forced to sell the family home when Selina was only 14 years old. So she did the only thing she knew to do since there were no male relatives in the picture – Selina began teaching in a county school and singlehandedly supported her family. Over the next few years she saved enough money to buy back her family home.

Selina married Dr. T. P. Holman of Fayettville, TN and became the mother of 8. She was born at a time that did not welcome other perspectives. It was a time of the emancipation of slaves – yet people still embraced an old mindset towards African Americans and Women. Yet, it was a time of progress for white males.

Selina took her faith in the Lord very seriously.

She testified to the unspoken distress of many women who were taught that they were inferior and a burden. Selina stated, “Mothers always wanted their children to be boys, because boys have so much better chance in life. Girls regretted that they were not boys, because then there would be some place in the world for them, at least until they were married. Girls were trained to believe that their lives were a failure if they did not marry.” So, it was a time when marriage and having children were the only real value for women.

Holman also said, “It was men, not women that gathered in council to actually debate if women had souls or not. The prejudices of heathenism cling to us in our attitudes toward women.”

Bobby Campbell who wrote about the Stone-Campbell Movement stated, “Selina did believe that the husband was the head of the wife…and that a woman’s greatest fulfillment was in having a wonderful home. But that home included a woman who was intelligent, cultured, involved in the world and was recognized as a person of value because she had value in and out of the home. Proverbs 31 was the New Woman! The new woman would produce better wives and mothers rather than hinder motherhood. Men had, for centuries lived far below the inspired Word of God in relation to women and it was only in her own day that many were coming to see what was in the Bible all along.”  

Selina took a stand in a day when women had no voice. She took on the religious and secular establishments and forced them to take a good look at themselves. Yet she did so with humility, gentleness, and respect… something she was rarely shown in return. This Fayetteville woman and her husband were members of Washington Street Church of Christ where her husband was an elder.

Selina became the President of the Women’s Christian Temperance Movement which grew from 200-4,000 women during her 15-year tenure as president. The state of Tennessee honored Selina Holman by placing her portrait in our state capitol. She died in 1915 and her funeral was conducted on her own lawn which drew over 1000 people. She is buried in Rose Hill Cemetery (on the left as you enter the gates, you can see the Holman family plot).

Selina is a woman of God that should not be forgotten. Her courage is an inspiration to women and men alike. Her legacy so impacted my life that she was influential in my “Yes” to the call from the Lord to come here. And like Selina, we all should take up the torch and stand for what is right even when it isn’t popular to do so. Women you have a voice – you are valuable to our Heavenly Father. You have so much worth in His Kingdom.

When I think about what Selina Moore Holman might say to us today in 2018……..

Women of the Way 2013

Well I think it would be something like this – Ladies, what are you waiting for? It’s time to take a stand for Christ every day – in big and small ways, in your homes and in your community, with your family and with your friends. If you’re afraid, that’s all right. Do it afraid and know that’s the place where faith meets fear and God shows up!

“Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is

deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord

is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her

works bring her praise at the city gate.” ~ Proverbs 31:29-31



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Jesus would approve of a “Hall of Fame” for the FIRST Women of the Way?

If there were ever an elite hall of fame for Early Christians, the men included would be many. There would be Great men of history that did significant things to further the cause of Christianity. Hebrews Chapter 11 comes to mind with its list of great leaders of the faith from the Old Testament. The New Testament would have its own noteworthy contribution of great men of the faith as well.

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Any Hall of Fame for Christians wouldn’t be complete without including the women who’ve made their mark in early church history and in the Christians faith. Even though Hebrews Chapter 11 doesn’t mention any women, and early Christian history doesn’t site the contributions of women very often, we know that Jesus would approve of a special wing in this Hall of Fame to honor to the women who were the first followers of THE WAY.

Through His relationships and communication with women in the gospels, Jesus elevated the status of women during His earthly ministry. Women were a significant part of his financial support. The followers of The Way included both men and women where the girls were just as vital to the ministry of Christ as the guys.

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This special wing of our Hall of Fame would include the very FIRST followers of the WAY. They would be the women who actually walked with Jesus, talked with Him, and participated in His ministry during His time on earth. These women must be honored for their whole-hearted passion and devotion to our Lord!

Of course, first in line would to be honored is Mary.

As the mother of Jesus, Mary was the first person ‘to carry the gospel’. We all rise and called her blessed because of her willingness to say yes and her obedience to being apart of God’s great plan of salvation. She knew being a Christ follower wasn’t a short term gig; she knew it was a lifelong commitment.

Mary and Martha were friends of Jesus.

Mary and Martha were not only followers of Jesus, but they were also friends of Jesus. They mirror back to us the common struggles of all women who long to balance what’s good with what’s best. They had a special connection with Jesus where he dined with them, sat with them, and wept when their brother died.

Woman with Alabaster Box worshipped deeply.

If you’ve ever had a debt paid or a loan forgiven, you have just a tiny glimpse what it could have felt like to be this woman. She was forgiven much so therefore, she loved deeply…..to the point of using her own tears and hair as acts of worship. Pouring out her love on Jesus was such an overflow of her gratitude that she didn’t care who was watching. Jesus was so moved by her expression of love that he said it would be remembered and discussed for ages.

Mary Magdalene was the first of many.

Good Ole’ Mary!  Even though she wasn’t family, she positioned herself at the cross with His Mother. She made sure she was one of the first ones at the tomb and was one of the first to see the Resurrected Christ! She was the first person to tell others the Lord is Risen- the first evangelist! She wasn’t just a fan, like Kyle Idleman would say, she was a follower. No doubt her influence as a first followers of The Way was great!

We are the modern Women of the Way….

As we discover who we are as the modern Women of the Way and what it means to be passionate, devoted followers of Christ, it’s such a delight to pause to reflect on the very first Women of the Way who paved the way for the rest of us to follow Him too! Even though these women lived thousands of years ago, they struggled with the same issues that we still struggle with today. We can identify with their hopes and dreams too. They are shining examples of how God used them to further His Kingdom which gives us hope of how God can use us to further His Kingdom. These precious women were the beginning of this Kingdom which helped to lay its foundation.

Women of the Way 2013

Could it be that we will be apart of finishing this Kingdom helping to usher in Christ’s completed Kingdom in the world??

Which one of these women can you identify with most? Who inspires you to be more passionate and devoted to Jesus?

Who else would you add to the list?

Let’s continue to talk about women throughout history who were Women of the Way……..



When you want to be more like the FIRST followers of THE WAY…..

In all the years we’ve been doing this “Women of the Way”, I don’t believe I’ve ever explained out loud the reason for its name.

Why are we called “Women of the WAY“?

The first gathering of believers in Jerusalem after Jesus death, resurrection and ascension called themselves followers of The Way. Luke makes reference to this when describing Saul’s persecution of believers in Acts 9:2. Also, The Way is  mentioned in Acts 19:23 when talking about a riot in Ephesus. Finally, in Acts 22:4 as Paul describes his own conversion, he told about his determination to arrest and even kill followers of The Way.

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Because they were still Jews, they continued to perform the Jewish practices of the day by worshipping at the temple and synagogues and maintaining the rules and customs of the ritual law. Increasingly though, the Jewish leaders were not happy with these followers of Jesus. They began to arrest them and try to stop them from talking about Jesus. Just like they stamped out Jesus, they were determined to do the same with His followers.

Why were the followers of The Way such a threat?

They were passionate about their mission to share Jesus Christ.

The fire that filled them on the Day of Pentecost gave them such a that ignited their passion like never before. They preached about Christ in the streets and at the temple. They were not timid in their witness to share about the Good News. And when the pressure started heating up, they prayed for more boldness and passion just like it says in Acts 4:24-35….

When they heard this, they raised their voices together in prayer to God. “Sovereign Lord,” they said, “you made the heavens and the earth and the sea, and everything in them. 25 You spoke by the Holy Spirit through the mouth of your servant, our father David:

“‘Why do the nations rage
    and the peoples plot in vain?
26 The kings of the earth rise up
    and the rulers band together
against the Lord
    and against his anointed one.”

27 Indeed Herod and Pontius Pilate met together with the Gentiles and the people of Israel in this city to conspire against your holy servant Jesus, whom you anointed. 28 They did what your power and will had decided beforehand should happen. 29 Now, Lord, consider their threats and enable your servants to speak your word with great boldness.30 Stretch out your hand to heal and perform signs and wonders through the name of your holy servant Jesus.”

31 After they prayed, the place where they were meeting was shaken.And they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and spoke the word of God boldly. All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of their possessions was their own, but they shared everything they had.33 With great power the apostles continued to testify to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus. And God’s grace was so powerfully at work in them all34 that there were no needy persons among them. For from time to time those who owned land or houses sold them, brought the money from the sales 35 and put it at the apostles’ feet, and it was distributed to anyone who had need.

These first faithful followers were devoted in their practices of following Jesus Christ.

They met in homes for worship, ate meals together as the sacrament of communion was developed, and they met the needs of those around them as well as each other’s needs. They were devoted to prayer and worship, and loved each other deeply. Their earnest desire to follow Christ, to serve Him, and to share it with others was evident to all. The Way wasn’t just a trendy, new Jewish custom. The Way was a way of life!

They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. 43 Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. 44 All the believers were together and had everything in common. 45 They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. 46 Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, 47 praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved. Act 2:42-47 NIV

It didn’t take long, however, for the grip of persecution to begin bear down on the followers of The Way. Increasingly, the Jewish leaders arrested them and threatened them to stop their preaching. The Pharisees mistakenly thought they had stamped out Jesus and could easily do the same with His foolish followers. This pressure only deepened their resolve, and they celebrated the fact that they were being treated just like their Lord.

The stoning of Stephen was the match that set the whole thing ablaze! Believers were forced to flee Jerusalem in order to escape being killed or imprisoned. That fanatical Saul was now out for blood trying to wipe out The Way so many of the believers scattered. The true beauty of their escape, though, was that the Gospel was spread in so many new places. Churches were started in many different communities which is what God had intended all along!


When I developed this local women’s gathering, I not only wanted it to include all kinds of church denominations, but I also wanted us to follow the same ideals as Christians in the early church to be passionate, devoted followers of Christ. We may worship at each of our churches differently. We may have slightly different interpretations of Scripture, but we can be united under the same banner of Jesus is Lord just as those first Christians were.

I want us to be passionate and bold to share the Good News of Jesus with those around us. I want us  to pray, without hesitation, for someone right where we are or to give generously as people have needs around us. I want us to serve the community with overwhelming generousity…..

Women of the Way 2018

I want us to be fully and utterly devoted to Jesus Christ. I want us to be women of prayer, women of worship, and women of study so that our lives are defined primarily by our relationship with Christ and not by simply what we do or where we live or what we have.

And finally, when faced with the possibility of persecution, I want us to feel so honored to be treated like our Lord that we do not waiver in the least to proclaim the Good News even when it’s not easy. I want us to stand, resist, and infiltrate the enemy’s territory to fight for those who can’t fight for themselves.  Lastly, we would support our fellow brothers and sisters around the world who are facing true persecution for The Way as we pray for them an financially support them.

In this, we can be like those original followers of The Way.

How can you be more like them?

What are you already doing to be passionate and devoted for Jesus? What needs to change so that you are filled with passion? What do you need to do to be more devoted to Christ?

Stay tuned for more as we discover the women throughout history and the women we know as passionate, devoted follower of Christ!

In the meantime, would like some ideas on how to connect with other believers who want to be more like the first followers of the Way?

Sign up here for “How to Be More Interdenominational” & “Prayers & Meditations for Unity”. I’d love to share some encouraging stuff with you!



Summer Gardening: A Decision, a Discipline, and a Delight

I’ve enjoyed sharing this little spin on Summer Gardening by growing in spiritual disciplines and in Christian life.

My summer of turning the soil (silence and solitude), soaking in Living Water (worshipping in His Presence), and fertilizing the soil (reading and listening to good books) has been and continues to be really wonderful!!!

It’s been a delight, but it hasn’t always been.

In summers past, I slept late everyday.  I had very little time to myself because taking care of the kids was is wonderful but nonstop. It seemed like by the time I got up and got rolling, the day was mostly gone. Even with the gift of summer days at home, I still wasn’t tending to my heart like I really wanted. I had the desire to deepen my relationship with God, but the choices I made was not getting me there.

Like with any summer gardening, you need the right tools to get the job done, to get to where you really want to be.

I had to make a decision and develop a discipline in order to make it a delight!

The routine I wanted to grow my heart wasn’t going to change until I made the decision to change. The desire for the outcome I wanted had to be stronger than my current habits which caused me to waste a lot of time. I had a lot of excuses too- I’m not an early morning person, I don’t have a lot of time for reading, I don’t have a lot of time by myself, etc. While I’m working during the school year, it truly is more difficulty to do the things I really desired to nourish myself so I knew I had to steward the gift of my summer days at home better than this. Nothing really changes unless you make the conscious decision to do something different. So, making the decision to make different choices was my starting point.


Next came the discipline. I am not an early riser by nature. I love to sleep late. I love my summer laziness. It’s the great gift of being a school teacher to sleep in and take it slow and easy through the morning…..at least it is for me! During that season where the kids were babies and toddlers, there was no sleeping late. I thought I would never sleep past 7:00 again! As they’ve grown, of course they are sleeping later! Hallelujah!

Following my decision to make new habits, I began the discipline of getting up before the family. At first, it was hit or miss. Some days I would and other days, sleepiness would win. With each day I said ‘yes’ to the discipline, the choice to rise up got easier and easier.

Proper discipline requires balance, and it is summer, after all. So, on Saturdays, holidays, and vacation I sleep in. Glorious! And, on Sundays, I’m getting ready for church.

Day after day of choosing to wake up early for silence, soaking and study quietly and almost without notice became a delight! I would find myself looking forward to this precious time. Even though I thoroughly enjoyed sleeping in Saturdays, I found myself thinking “oh, tomorrow is Monday, I will have my morning time!”

Devotion to my spiritual disciplines has turned into a delight! When the alarm goes off, I roll out of bed and take my place. I still have days where I have to make a decision to get up, but it’s always worth it. When school starts again, I’ll have to amend this routine to fit the schedule. I’m not quite sure how that will work. It may be a new decision with a new discipline

I bet many of you are early birds and don’t have to work at rising early. What other areas could you make a decision and a discipline turn into a delight to deepen your faith and help your Summer Garden grow?

I’d love to hear about it!

Check out this Facebook Live video where I’m talking about the 3 D’s here.

If you need a little help with your summer gardening, I put together a little e-book with Scripture meditations, reflections questions, and a resource list just for you! When you sign up, you’ll get access to other Bible studies and the WoW Newsletter. Sign up here. Hope it helps!



Summer Gardening: Rich, Dark Soil

You gotta have rich, dark soil. Any good gardener or farmer will tell you that.

After years and years of growing a crop or a flower bed, the earth gets depleted of its nutrients and its substance. The ground gets stale from constantly bearing fruit.

It’s no different with my heart.

After a season (or many seasons) of output and productivity, my heart becomes depleted of its nutrients and substance. I can get stale and weary if I don’t take the time to put nourishment back.

We’ve already talked about how silence and solitude are like turning the soil and soaking in His Presence is like soaking in water. Now, we must put the good stuff back by fertilizing the soil.

I wish I could use another idea to describe nourishing the soil because fertilizer is….well you know what it is. And, I don’t want to imply that taking care of your heart is B.S, but you get the idea, right?

In my summer gardening, I’ve been fertilizing the soil of my heart through listening to and reading books.

At the beginning of this year, I challenged myself to deepen my literary scope by reading some classic Christian authors and widen my scope of Christian history. However, with work and home and church and ministry, it was really hard to have the time or energy to dig into such dense spiritual nutrients.

So, for the summer, I’m making it a priority.  First off, I’m reading the Bible. I’ve already worked my way through Jeremiah and Lamentations. Now, I’m reading Ezekiel. I do this first thing in the morning while the house is quiet before the kids wake up. Since it’s still kinda hard to sit down and read a book, I’m using the book app, Scribd, on my phone to listen to books while I do other things. I’ve already listened to A.W. Tozer’s The Crucified Life and am currently working through Weight of Glory, a collection of sermons by C.S. Lewis. I have a real book that I hold in my hands called The Joy of Ministry by  Thomas W. Currie, III that I’m slowly digesting bit by bit.

My strategy is to rotate different kinds of works and authors to get a variety of deposits into my spirit- Christian discipline, theology, etc. Next, I hope to include some good ol’ church history and some practical ministry resources. I’m also watching videos of one of my favorite authors, Alicia Britt Chole. She has a series on TBN called The Sacred Slow. I haven’t had the chance to read her book yet, but the videos have been a great addition to my other books.

Of course, I have to add some good, yummy fiction to round out this diet for my soul. I have a few titles picked out on my Scribd account that were recommendations, but I have a physical book by my favorite fiction author, Francine Rivers. Many years ago, I read her Mark of the Lion series which is wonderful, so for a few minutes a day, I’ll read A Voice in the Wind. Delightful!

Can I tell you how wonderful this has been? The Tozer and Lewis pieces were simply inspiring and gets me motivated to exercise. The phone app has been really great because I’m still a better listener than a reader. I can’t wait to dive into the church history. Watching Alicia always draws me closer to Jesus. I feel like I’m nourishing myself well.

By depositing Scripture, authors, and ideas into my spirit, I hope to enrich the soil of my heart by teaching my mind and nourishing my heart so that I can have a more fulfilling relationship with God and hopefully, continued quality seasons of productivity and ministry.

Last week, I talked about it here on Facebook. Check it out.

What books are you reading? How are you fertilizing your soil? How’s your summer gardening going?

If you need a little help with your summer gardening, I put together a little e-book with Scripture meditations, reflection questions, and a resource list just for you! When you sign up, you’ll get access to other Bible studies and the WoW Newsletter. Sign up here.

Hope it helps!


Summer Gardening: Soaking in His Presence

The most satisfying experience in all my existence is being the in the presence of God.

Out of all the pleasures that are ours to enjoy….eating, sleeping, playing, satisfaction in completing a task or job, reading, learning, nature, friends, music, art…or even chocolate……none compare to being in God’s Presence. Only the love for a child and the embrace of intimacy even come close.

These God-given, human experiences delight us and make us happy. They are part of the full, abundant life that God delights in giving us. We are content, satisfied, and blessed, but they leave us wanting more. When the experience fades (or the food is digested), the hunger or desire or longing returns, and we want more. It satisfies, but then we must experience it again to be satisfied again.

Being in God’s Presence, however, is not just pleasing to my senses or fills a physical need. Experiencing God touches something deeper than the biological requirements of my body, or the intellectual questions of my mind, or the expressing of my emotions. Being with God satisfies my spirit. Deep within me, at the essence of my being, God’s presence connects with mine.

I am satisfied in a way that is so much more complete than any of those other earthly experiences. I feel whole. I feel I am who I was meant to be.

This deep spiritual satisfaction radiates from my inmost being and rises up in me expressing itself in overwhelming floods of emotion- love, joy, peace, thankfulness. My mind has ideas and thoughts that only come from the wisdom and knowledge of the Holy Spirit so that my questions get answered and guidance is given to my decisions. My body responds with tears and laughter and words that may or may not be understood, and out of me overflows a love for those around me.

Soaking in His Presence, or worshipping God, continues as part of my Summer Gardening. Communing with God’s Spirit is like drinking up, bathing in or, diving deep into water so that’s why soaking seems to be the appropriate gardening imagery. Like a gentle rain on a lazy afternoon, my spirit is saturated and satisfied worshipping God, soaking in His Presence.


Many of us worship God in lots of different ways. For me, though, my primary mode is through music. Singing and playing has a way communicating to God and with God in a way that puts me in that Holy Place like no other. Music is the language that intersects the spirit, mind, and emotions. It fills the room when we are alone and unites the assembly when we are together.

But music isn’t the only way to soak in His Presence. Being in nature, reading, creating, spending time with precious friends or family, communion, reading Scripture are all ways to worship and to soak. Each person is uniquely created to relate to God in a variety of ways.

The mode or method, I’m learning, isn’t as important as the sincerity. Worshipping God doesn’t look the same from person to person as I once used to think. From God’s perspective, He doesn’t need us to worship in any particular fashion. He doesn’t need it in any certain way. I do think, however, the object of our worship should be glorifying to God. A Godly activity that makes us feel good is nice, but are we focusing on who God is and Him being exalted in our lives and in that moment.

The purpose of my summer gardening and soaking is to be intentional and take this extra time I have at home to really pursue God. Like I mentioned in Tending the Soil, those seasons of busyness can take a toll on one’s body and spirit. So, pursuing the silence, solitude, and worshipping in God will deepen the roots of my relationship with Him while He replenishes and renews me.

There’s nothing more satisfying than soaking in His Presence. Check out this video where I’m talking about it on Facebook.

What are the ways in which you were created to worship God?

How do you soak in His Presence?

If you need a little help with your summer gardening, I put together a little e-book with Scripture meditations, reflection questions and a resource list for you! When you sign up, you’ll also get access to other Bible studies and the WoW Newsletter! Sign up here! Hope it helps!


Living Water

Water is amazing.

Water serves us as one of the most perfect gifts God has ever created on this earth. Think about it. It nourishes and hydrates- we drink it to live. It cleanses and heals- we wash to be clean. Water is comforting and relaxing. I am reminded how wonderful water is as I’m floating in my friend’s pool and all the tension in my body melts away. Even a simple fountain with trickling water soothes my mind and helps me breathe deeply. Aaaaahhhhh….can you just hear it?

But water is also powerful.

My family and I went hiking to a cave recently in the hills of Tennessee. It was a beautiful trail, a bit rocky at times though as I huffed and puffed my way down the path. When we finally reached the opening of the huge cave, waves of cool air hit us in the face as a reward for the long journey. A small creek was flowing out of the cave trickling down over several levels of boulders and rocks into a nice running stream. Taking off my shoes and wading in the chilly water, I was refreshed and renewed (no, I didn’t drink it. I learned that lesson the hard way many years ago).

I began to notice how all the rocks were shaped differently by the water. Some rocks were smooth and rounded. Some rocks had been hollowed out like perfect bowls. Some rocks had jagged or sharp edges made by the water. Flowing water had even carved out this cave.

The same water that can nourish and relax has the power to shape rock.

We have been given a similar gift. We have been given the promise of Living Water.

Water splashing over rocks.

Jesus tells us in John 7:38-39 “Anyone who believes in me may come and drink! For the Scriptures declare, ‘Rivers of living water will flow from his heart.’” 39 (When he said “living water,” he was speaking of the Spirit, who would be given to everyone believing in him. But the Spirit had not yet been given, because Jesus had not yet entered into his glory.)”

The Holy Spirit that Jesus is speaking of fills us and flows out of us like a river. The Spirit comforts like a float in a calm pool. The Spirit cleanses like a long, hot bath. The Spirit refreshes like wading in a cool spring. When we drink of this water, we will never thirst again.

Yet, there is one difference between the Living Water and the H2O stuff all around us. While the Holy Spirit is powerful enough to topple a city or sweep out a town like a flood or tsunami, He will never, ever over take you. He will never force or flood you more than you can handle or desire.


Like the slow, steady trickle from a cave spring, the Holy Spirit can take those rough, rocky places in our hearts and smooth out the edges, hollow out the stone and shape into us  a cave that only God can fill.

“Come to this water, there is a vast supply. There is a river, that never shall run dry.”

Come, drink- and be satisfied.



Women Need Women

Everybody’s first mentor was, of course, their mother. Your mother was likely the first woman to have significant influence in shaping your life. My mother was no different- she had a tremendous amount of wisdom while I was growing up:

-I don’t care how tall you get, I will climb up in that chair and get you! (She is much shorter than me because I shot up past her at age 12.)

-You need to finish school before you start your family. (It took her 13 years to finish college)

-And one of the most recent… I want to be the mother you need now. (And, she is!)me&mom

But then, there were things that my mother didn’t tell me. It’s not that she didn’t try. You have only so much time, you know,  to raise a girl into a lady. She got the big messages pounded in my head, but still, there were some things she failed to mention like..…

my pregnant belly- the day after I had my first daughter as I got dressed, I turned one way and my stretched, wrinkly, deflated stomach went the other way. What? No one had ever said to me (and I even read the “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” book and not. one. word.) “Listen, when you have a baby, your stomach skin will deflate like a balloon. But, it’s ok, hon, your stomach will shrink back….mostly”

Or….. hair growing in weird places. I admit, I have heard about this one. But, I didn’t think it would actually happen to me.  Someone needed to say “Yes, you will grow hair in some places and lose hair in others. Yes, it Will happen to you”. Still. Shuddering.

And how can we leave out..….sagging skin. A few years ago as I climbed into the shower, I caught an accidental and very unintentional look at my backside in the mirror. I was shocked to find my rear end had fallen into my thigh which resulted in this hunk of skin bulging out. I mean…really! Where did that come from???

All I’m saying is that someone should have told me these things! At least I could have been more prepared.


Despite having to learn some of these lessons the hard way, there have been many women whose mentoring took me under their wings. Pastor wives, women’s ministry leaders, and older friends who would share of themselves in bible studies, prayer, sitting around the  kitchen table talking, and listening.

I’ve been especially touched in the past few years by women who were God-sent into my life who’ve literally taken care of me. I had my oldest, Abigail in 2005, then in 2007 I had triplets. So, in two years, we went from 0 children to 4 children!! We needed help! There’s been Judy and Paola who cleaned house and babysat. Rebecca, only 14 at the time, would organize books and onesies and play with Abigail. As the years have gone by, there’s been women who’ve come into my life and have supported me in countless ways. Like Kim who knew times were tight for us financially and would quietly bless me with a shirt or piece of jewelry. Or, Nancy who would let me float at the pool with no kids. They have taken care of me at a time in my life (and are still) when I’ve had to focus so much on taking care of others.

Through the years, I’ve had women challenge me to pray for the tough, selfless prayers and to grow in maturity and to learn ‘it’s not about me”. I even had a friend look me in the eye to say the tough words…”I’ve been there…. don’t do it….. stop it.”


See, Women need women.

Women need women to pass down all this secret knowledge about being a woman and to encourage, teach, shape and inspire each other. I wonder…if Eve had ever had a mentor,  a sister, or even a BFF, would that have changed anything at all?

“Girl, put that apple down this minute!”

Because….women need women.

Titus ch 2 reminds us that the older women need to teach the younger women. The older women should pass down their experience to the younger ones who need a little help along the way. Older women should realize that their ‘job’ isn’t done simply because their families are grown and out of the nest. There are SO many ministry opportunities out there for an older woman to ministry to a younger woman.

Younger women need to realize that they can’t do it all alone. You need support and an extra pair of hands sometimes. Younger women need to seek out and listen to the advice and wisdom that older can offer.

Is there some secret knowledge you wish had been passed on to you? Who has shaped you into the woman you are today?

As we finish up the month of May and the celebration of motherhood, what ways can you reach out to the women around you?


On the Outside of the Circle

She sat across the table from me. She didn’t say a word. We were a bunch of women who  attended a workshop together, so the hotel restaurant seated us at one table. Some ladies knew each other and chatted away about this and that. Most of us were strangers. I knew a couple of ladies on my left and spoke to them occasionally, but mostly, I watched the others around me.

I watched to see if any of the other ladies would strike up a conversation with the woman seated across from me.  I thought that maybe I should talk to her. But, I was stubborn. I was grumpy for being at this particular restaurant. I had wanted to go some place else, but for the sake of the group, I went with what they wanted. I selfishly thought “I always talk first, let somebody else talk, why doesn’t someone talk to me??” (Yes, there was a little pity party going in my head) So, I sat there, ate my chicken, and observed.

She waited for her food, ate her hamburger in silence, and left.

I was saddened that no one around that table said a word to this woman. She wasn’t included in any of their conversations. Then again, I was guilty too. I didn’t say a word to her either:/

Why is it we stay in our groups and keep to ourselves? Why is it so hard to widen our circles just a bit to include someone sitting just on the outside? Why is it we sit at the table and just talk to the people we know? At work? At a restaurant? At church??

Maybe some of you are better at it than I. Maybe you don’t let these opportunities walk away like I did. Maybe I’m a little sensitive to this subject. Oh I know…some of us are shyer than others, and some of us are more outgoing. I have to admit that its hard for me to open up with a new person until I feel comfortable with her. But, I’ve been on the other side too. I’ve sat on the outside waiting for someone to talk to me. I’ve been the newcomer awkwardly hoping to get in on the conversation. It’s not enjoyable. So, maybe that’s why I notice it.


So, I’m trying to be better. I am trying to include the newbie, notice the one off to herself, and reach out to make that connection. I’m not going to let a woman walk away without saying something to her anymore. It doesn’t come naturally to me, but I’m trying. I’m trying to be better because relationships, friendships and connections are the silver and gold, the real stuff that matters. Eternal.

What has been your experience? Is it easy for your to strike a conversation with anyone?Have you ever been on the outside of the circle? If you would like to sign up for some more encouragement, join me here…



Silver and Gold

**One of the biggest blessings I receive from WoW gatherings is meeting and getting to know precious sisters in Christ! But not just me…watching all of you make friends and making new connections is such a joy to watch!! You are my Silver and Gold**


“Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other gold.  A circle’s round it has no end, that’s how long I want to be your friend.”

Life is not about the stuff you accumulate or how much money you make. It’s not about your achievements or the letters behind your name.  It’s not about what you drive or your net worth.

Life is about Silver and Gold. It’s about friends, old and new. Those precious relationships mined out of life’s ins and outs. The people we meet that make our lives richer.

I’ve been keenly aware of the silver and gold in my own life this summer: A day at the pool,  sending that selfie from a dressing room ‘does this dress work?’, catching up on the phone, stopping by the office for a quick hug, planning a meet-up on Facebook, attending a difficult life changing event, inviting some over for a party, staying over for dinner, sharing revelations, and studying Truth. All of it precious. All of them Silver and Gold.

We can’t make it without friends. We need that wide circle of friends to cheer for us and have fun. We need that tight circle of confidants to tell us, “Girl, you’d better put that down!” We need that one kindred spirit to whisper those secrets of the heart. We need to nourish these relationships because we draw so much nourishment from them.

As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. Proverbs 27:17

I love it that I get sharpened by my Silver and Gold. Keeps me humble. Gets me loved. Lets me grow. Makes me More than I am.

Who are your Silver and Gold? Don’t let them tarnish. Polish them as often as possible. In turn, they will polish you, sharpen you. And, you will never be left empty.


When God uses the small ones to do BIG things…..

Read with me Exodus 1:8-22.

The Israelites had become slaves. They were growing in strength and number. Pharaoh felt threatened and insecure, so he devised a plan to try to limit their growth and strength. He gave orders to Shiphrah and Puah, 2 common midwives to kill any Hebrew male babies when they are born. But the women couldn’t do it- they let the boys live.

Why couldn’t they do what Pharaoh asked? Because they feared God more than a man. Whether they were Egyptian with their various gods or Hebrew who believed in one true God, they knew enough to know that what Pharaoh had asked them to do was evil and wrong.  I love it how they made their excuses….”those Hebrews women are too strong and fast…they have the babies before we get there”!

The enemy used Pharaoh to execute a deathly plan, but what we see happening is the God puts into effect His own agenda. God used these women as His own unlikely secret weapon to stop the evil plot. They took a stand. They resisted evil. They infiltrated the enemy by defying Pharaoh and by delivering those babies.

Here’s the thing…… The devil has always tried to execute these grandiose schemes with such drama and flare. But God thwarts those evil attacks through people who are seemingly small insignificant with acts of subtle obedience. God infiltrates the enemy’s plan by working through a couple of simple women of courage who quietly waging war through delivering babies and allowing them to live.

Throughout the Bible, God  used the seemingly simple people to accomplish what seems like insignificant tasks…..Jochebed and Miriam allowing a baby to live, Rahab helping Israel’s spies to escape, Jael killing the enemy in her tent while cooking supper. It keeps going. God used a donkey, farmer, orphan, the last born shepherd boy, a coward in a well, a barren woman on and on it goes. God infiltrates the enemy’s schemes and He accomplishes His own plan through what seems like the small and weak people.


However, in God’s eyes this obedience isn’t small or insignificant. Their acts of courage aren’t meager or trivial. Rather,  it’s great faith and courage and bravery. In God’s eyes, these women who feared God more than man were Big Giants of Faith.

Throughout history the enemy’s tactics have not changed! He keeps trying the same old strategy to kill, steal and destroy but God always has a secret operative working in the shadows….Corrie Ten Boom…..Mother Theresa….Amy Carmicheal…..Rosa Parks.

Women who quietly and subtly…yet powerfully and courageously, with God’s Spirit, were doing battle on God’s behalf…..rescuing Jews, caring for poor, sharing the Gospel taking a stand for what’s right…..because they feared God more than man.

It doesn’t stop there…..we are being called to be God’s secret weapon for today to infiltrate enemy strongholds and to be God’s strategic plan to carry out His Mission in these last days. We know there are modern day Pharaohs, Herods, and Hamans trying to do everything they can to take out as many souls as possible. Satan’s is raging like never before to attack what God loves most…His People.

Do you feel like you are small and insignificant? Do you feel like what you do matters little?


Please join me at Women of the Way 2018: “Women of Courage”  as we discover how God used seemingly small women in the Bible to do BIG things for Him and how we can do the same! I truly believe this is an important message for this day and age! I urge you to be there! Find out all the details here! 


Lazy summer days are the best!

When you need some power to face Monday morning…..

If you are like me, the journey to Easter was a blessed and rich one. Contemplation and reflection during Lent, Holy Week with the honor and suffering of our Messiah, Passover, Good Friday, and finally (whew!) Resurrection Sunday!!

It’s Monday night, and I’m exhausted…. again. If I’m not careful, the glory of the weekend can quickly fade to complaints and grumbles and ‘here we go again’ into the work week.

But, Jesus didn’t raise from the dead so that we could go back to work on Monday morning living the same, ol’ unchanged life.  The fact is the same Spirit that raised Christ from the dead lives in us.

The Resurrection isn’t just for Easter Sunday. It’s for every day!!

Did you get that?

When I stop and really meditate on this truth, I have a hard time wrapping my head around it. I have to say it slowly and let the words sink in…….

The same power that raised Jesus from the dead….lives in us!

That means His Resurrection gives us the power to face Monday morning…again.

That means His Resurrection gives us the power to love the unlovable around us.

His Resurrection gives us the power to share the fruit that is evidence of His Presence in our lives- love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, goodness, faithfulness and self-control.

His Resurrection gives us the power to bring Christ into the situation in which we’ve been called.

How are you living out the power of the Resurrection and bringing Christ to the people around you?

For different people that might mean different things. Some of you might be very evangelical by sharing how someone can become a Christian. For some of you, that might mean praying for those that work beside you. For some of you that might mean just a simple hug with some encouragement or serving your family.

It’s going to look a little bit different for each of us, but the goal is still the same…

How can I bring Christ to the world today?

Sure, we are going to get tired. We aren’t going to feel like coming off that mountain high of sunrise service and face the world again. But let that same Spirit give you strength to face each day in the power of His Resurrection!!


Why you need to be more Interdenominational……..

Women of the Way 2018 is almost here!!!!

More than 7 years ago, this idea of women from different churches coming together has grown and blossomed into such a beautiful gathering of the Body of Christ!

Each year, I love seeing women connecting, making friends, getting to know each other. We are inspired by the messages from amazing speakers and learn about the organizations that accomplish such great work in our community.

My favorite thing though?…….Oh……my absolute favorite thing about WoW is at the end of each session. We all hold hands with each other, and we say in unison the one prayer that brings us all together.

Our Father, who art in heaven,hallowed be Thy Name. Thy Kingdom Come. Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who’ve trespassed against us. Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil. For thine is the Kingdom, and the power, and the glory forever and ever. Amen

It’s one of the MOST beautiful things to experience in a church setting.


Maybe it’s just me…..but it feels like the Father is just smiling down on us. It feels like the unity of his daughters radiates such pleasure from Him!

And that’s why, I believe, you need to be more interdenominational.

Gathering with other believers brings unity, oneness, and love.

It reminds us that we are part of The Body of Christ, not just our own denomination.

It calls us to something bigger than our own little corner of the world making us more aware of how the Spirit is working all around us!

To help you get ready for this year’s gathering, I put together this free ebook  “Prayers and Meditations for Unity” to describe why I feel unity and oneness in the Church is so important with prayers and Scripture to prepare your heart. Click on the link to download your copy here.

You can also get your own copy of “Building Unity”  on some practical ideas on how to actually experience more unity with other believers.

Yes! Each of our own churches and ministries are so vital and important.  I don’t want to take away from that, but taking some time to be with other believers has the potential to revive us in a unique way to keep pursuing our mission!!!



I really hope to see you at Women of the Way 2018. God has always been faithful each year, and I anticipate this year to be no exception!! Check out the Facebook event page for the latest info and details!

Download those ebooks too! I would love to hear if they were helpful to you!


Love Comes Full Circle

I am in constant search for God’s love.

It has been…and continues to be…a lifelong search.

Because of this search, I have been asking some tough questions like…..

Am I using God instead of getting to know God?


Do I love ministry more than I love God?

Yes, God has been showing me and teaching me about His love layer by layer, revealing who He is and how much I need Him.

“For God so loved the world…”

“Jesus loves me this I know…..”

“While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us……”

I have learned that Jesus loves me enough to die for me, that He loves me enough to secure my place with Him in eternity. Thanks be to God!

Pressing in further and digging in deeper though, God continues to reveal how His love just doesn’t save me. I’m learning that His love can change what I believe about myself. I can fail but He still loves me. I can turn the other cheek because He still loves me. I am beautiful because He. loves. me. Every misplaced, thirsty desire for attention, recognition, intimacy….or even chocolate, is a deep soul longing that only can be satisfied by God’s eternal love. I truly believe that so many of our “issues” can be restored or resolved if we allow His love to meet our needs.

So, if that is the case, let me ask this question:

“God, in what areas of my life can be changed, truly changed, by Your Love and how can that really happen in an everyday-practical-way?”

One of the answers came to me from 1 John 4:11- Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.


Of course, I have heard this message of loving others. Of course, I know “love your neighbor as yourself.” But when this verse flashed across the screen during the sermon a couple of weeks ago, a light clicked. To the degree that God has loved me is the strength, intensity, and duration that I should love others.

We spend so much time searching for God’s love for ourselves, getting our own needs met, and figuring out how God can help me. But how much, in comparison, do we spend loving others? Do we love others like God loves us? I don’t mean your BFF or your mom or husband or friends. Do you love the widow, the smelly kid or the mean girls? To the degree that God loves you when you are grumpy, depressed, or hurting is that how you are attempting to love others?

Could it be that the fullest expression of God’s love in our lives is only realized when we pour out on others what’s been given to us? Like a plant drawing nourishment from the soil, it must not hoard the water in its stem, but rather it’s converted into energy and produces a flower or fruit to be shared with others.

Could it be that while we are in the center of our own storm praying for God’s sustaining love to carry us through, we find His strength and courage more tangible while reaching out to others in their need? Because like the widow who kept pouring out the last drops of oil until every pot in the house was full (2 Kings 4:1-7), how much more will God continue to fill us with His love as we pour what we have into someone else’s jar?

Love comes full circle when we receive it and then give it away only to receive more and more in return. The supply never runs dry.

Is your circle a little incomplete? Even though you know God’s Love is working in you, do you need a little help letting His Love work through you?

I’ve written a *free* mini email course to help with the question, “Do you love your ministry more than you love people?”

Along with asking similar questions, this 3 Signs You Need to ReNew Your Ministry (sent to your inbox) will help you examine your relationship with God, your ministry, and your relationship with others. The course has questions and reflections to help you get things back into the right order in your life and prioritize what really matters.


If you believe you could use a little help in your ministry, take the 3 Signs You Need to ReNew Your Ministry.

Sign up here.

Like Beth Moore said in a message “You are greatly blessed to bless!”

While in the midst of God’s love transforming you, how can you lavish that love on someone else in order to make the cycle complete?



When It’s Time to Do the Hard Thing……

Confrontation is always hard. Is there anybody who likes to confront another person? If you’re like me, my heart races, there’s an ache in my gut, and my mind plays over and over what was said or what should have been said. It’s torment.

In the instances where I have confronted a person or situation appropriately, it feels so good to have resolution. I feel so grown up and mature. I feel stronger and bit more like my true self.

So many times, however, I avoid confronting. I avoid it or do it badly. I want so desperately to say what’s on my mind, to feel heard and understood. I get so mad at myself when I let the moment pass. I will speak up……. next time.

Or, I need to do something equally hard- Confess and ask for forgiveness. Making myself vulnerable and say “I was wrong, I made a mistake. Please forgive me” is equally difficult. Sometimes we’d rather just forget it and let the whole thing pass.

But, that’s not right, is it?


To refuse to confront or to ask for forgiveness is to choose to stay childish and immature.

What keeps us from doing the hard thing?

There’s probably lots of explanations we could explore as to why we don’t want to confront.

The biggest reason, though, is fear.

Fear isn’t always the thing that goes bump in the night or the feeling that sticks with you after watching a scary movie.

Fear is the enemy’s strategy to keep you stuck in the same old unhealthy ways of thinking and behaving.

Fear is what keeps you from growing into the person God is calling you to be.

Fear is what grips you so that you’re so scared you won’t risk being vulnerable, so you won’t say what your heart is screaming.

Fear wants to keep you quiet. Keep you hiding. Keep you from being strong.

But, here’s the truth: God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self discipline. 2 Tim 1:7 (New Living Translation)

That gripping fear does not come from God.

God does want you scared. Jesus didn’t conquer death, hell and the grave so you would live a timid life.

The same Spirit that raised Christ from the dead (Romans 8:11) lives in you, and He has given you all the power, love and self-discipline to say or do that hard thing.

Let’s break this down:

Power– physical power, force, might, ability (Biblehub.com).  You’ve been given power through God’s ability to do this hard thing. God knows you can’t do this on your own. That’s why He’s given His power!

LoveNothing can separate us from God’s love (Romans 8:38)- not even our fears for today or our worries for tomorrow…..that’s what the Bible says. God has given us His Love. Therefore, we can risk saying or doing that hard thing. Even if that person rejects you or is mad at you, retreat to into God’s arms because His Love for you will never end.

Self-discipline– Other translations say “self-control”, as in, the Fruit of the Spirit or a “sound mind”, as in, wise decisions. In other words, God’s Spirit allows you to tackle this hard thing without doing anything crazy or getting out of control. Being scared can make you do or say stupid things because you are reacting out of fear instead of responding by God’s Spirit. Hey, another thing……I like the version that says He’s given you a “sound mind”. In other words….you aren’t crazy. When you feel compelled to do this hard thing because you know it’s the right thing, fear will make you think you’re crazy. It’s all in your head, that’s not how it really is, you are crazy.

Shut up, fear, I’m in the driver’s seat now. Dear Enemy,  I’m not gonna let you win.

Here’s the thing…..once we push through the fear and do the hard thing, the freedom that comes from the victory is amazing!!! The growth and maturity that results from your victory feels so good! And you’ll realize the freedom was worth pushing through the fear.


Armed with God’s Spirit, His power, love, and self-discipline, we can do ALL through Christ who gives us strength (Phil 4:13) when it’s time to do the hard thing!

Father, there’s this hard thing I need to do. I know when I do conquering it will make me stronger. But right now, the fear is screaming at me, holding me back, making me scared to try. Almighty God, through your Spirit, you have given me everything I need-power, love, and a sound mind to do this hard thing. Give me wisdom with the rights words and the right actions. Let me feel Your Love and to know you will never let me go no matter the outcome. Thank you, Father, for overwhelming victory through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen!

Hey Friend, I’m right there with you working on my own hard things. If you need some prayer or encouragement, send me an email at womenofthewaytn@gmail.com. I’d love to pray with you. If you know someone who needs to hear this, please share this post!





When you think nothing really good comes from Winter……..

On this cold, snowy day, I am reminded of this description of Winter by Alicia Britt Chole in her book, Anonymous:

In winter, are the trees bare? yes.

In winter, are the barren? No.

Life still is.

Life does not sleep- though in winter she retracts all advertisement. And when she does so, she is conserving and preparing for the future.

And so it is with us. Seasonally, we too are stripped of visible fruit. Our giftings are hidden; our abilities are underestimated. When previous successes fade and current efforts falter, we can easily mistake our fruitlessness for failure.

Photo credit by Nancy Rutledge

But such is the rhythm of spiritual life: new growth, fruitfulness, transition, rest…..new growth fruitfulness, transition, rest. Abundance may make us feel more productive, but perhaps emptiness has greater power to strengthen our souls.

In spiritual winters, our fullness is thinned so that, undistracted by our giftings, we can focus upon our character. In the absence of anything to measure, we are left with nothing to state at except for our foundation.

Risking inspection, we begin to examine the motivations that support our deeds, the attitudes that influence our words, the dead wood otherwise hidden beneath our busyness. Then a life-changing transition occurs as we move from resistance through repentance to the place of rest. With gratitude, we simply abide. Like a tree planted by living water, we focus upon our primary responsibility: remaining in him.

In winter, are we bare? Yes.

In winter, are we barren? No.

True life still is.

photo credit by Nancy Rutledge

The Father’s work in us does not sleep- though in spiritual winters he retracts all advertisements. And when he does so, he is purifying our faith, strengthening our character, conserving our energy, and preparing us for the future.

The sleepy days of winter hide us so that seductive days of summer will not ruin us. Alicia Britt Chole

Father,  just as the earth finds restoration and rest in the quiet, solitude of winter, allow this spiritual season to purify my faith so that I might abide only in You. Amen.



Advent: Love’s Greatest Story

Romantic movies try to create it. Love songs try to sing about it. Fairy tales try to capture it.

A longing lies in each of us for a Great Love Story.

We are drawn to such art, media, and entertainment because they touch in us this deep desire for love. Our hearts, and yes even our spirits, long for romance, adventure, and passion. We experience these thin attempts at love and long for more because they are only a shadow of a deeper desire.

Before time began, God wrote the story we crave. God set forth the plan to pursue and redeem us for Himself. He wrote the story of Jesus Christ as the Savior for us all.


In this great romance, He didn’t send Jesus to get us cleaned up good enough so he could finally show His love to us. No, this isn’t your familiar love story where the perfect looking hero and heroine meet, fall in love, and live happily ever after.

Instead, while we were yet sinners, broken, ugly, and undeserving of His attention,   He sent Jesus as the Word made flesh because He already loved us. His motivation to send His Son as Savior of the World was because of His passionate love for us.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only Begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him will not perish but have Everlasting Life. John 3:16

Read it again for the first time.

It doesn’t say that He sent His Son to make the people lovable and then pursue us the object of His Desire. Rather, He loved us first and then set in motion the plot of the Great Love Story. The Hero seeks out the heroine even before she knows He is searching for her!

The fourth week of Advent reminds us of this great love God has for each of us and to be reminded that God’s pure, passionate love was why He sent us a Savior.Adventjoy

It makes perfect sense, then, the weeks of Advent are all part of the Great Love Story- Thanksgiving giving way to Hope, Hope making room for Peace, Peace leading us to Joy, and Joy opening our hearts for Love. In a dramatic, breath-taking conclusion, Christ bursts onto the scene as a baby, Emmanuel- God with us, and Love’s Greatest Story is birthed in our hearts!


As we light the 4th candle of Advent, I pray this love story is written on your heart in such a way the celebration of Jesus’ birth floods you with Hope, Peace, Joy and most of all, Love!


Advent: Unexpected Joy

During this penitential season of Advent, we look inward and examine ourselves to prepare for the coming of Christ. In clearing away the inward clutter, we focus on the essentials of faith…..hope….peace….and so on.

By stripping away the excess, the busyness, and the noise of the season, we might be tempted to think we are missing out on all the excitement. However, when we stop and take time to quiet ourselves, we find something much greater…unexpected joy.


Watching leaves fall in the woods, delighting in giggly girls upstairs, enjoying the soft glow of lights after everyone’s gone to bed, gazing on the galaxy of stars on a crisp night, feeling the laughter of community in the church play, and dipping treats in chocolate with friends….these have been my joy this season in the midst paperwork, fevers, shopping, and rehearsals.


As we light the fourth pink candle of Advent, may we quiet ourselves in prayer, meditation, and solitude turning our hearts to Christ. And, in the midst of the season, we will find Joy because our hearts in tune with His.

What unexpected joy have you found this season?


Advent: His Presence leads to Peace

It never fails. I can count on it every time.

When I enter His Presence, His peace enters me.

Every. Single. Time.

So no matter how tired or weary I am; no matter how much my flesh cries screams out to stay on the couch, when I pray and worship, when I choose to enter His Presence, I am always surrounded by His Presence. I lay down my worries, concerns, and fears. I take my mind off myself, and I think about Him.

What do I get in return? Peace 

He gives me peace. In exchange for my feeble and limited worship He gives me His Peace.


My circumstances don’t neccessarily change, but because he gives me His Peace, my spirit is put at rest, my mind doesn’t worry (as much), and I and strengthened to keep going. I can trust that He has all things in His Hands.

As we light the second candle of Advent for Peace, may we be so saturated by His Presence that we walk through this season of hectic celebration with a peace that passes all understanding. And, in so doing, may we be instruments of peace to others. Instead of looking for others to bring us joy and love and comfort, may we radiate His Peace to family, friends and neighbors all around us!



I Found My Cheerleader

I took the kids swimming so they could practice for the swim team. This summer will be our first attempt at an organized sport. I unconsciously (or maybe consciously) picked the swim team because I was on the swim team when I was a kid. Coincidently, my kiddos are starting at the same age as I did- the summer after 4th grade.

While they were swimming, I cheered for them to keep going, kick hard, and use their arms. Almost immediately, I had a flashback to my 10 year old summer…..

Learning to swim wasn’t the easiest thing for me. I was NOT athletic. I was an ‘indoor girl’, you see, so, swimming 50 yards was a big challenge. I had to touch the floor of the pool many times, gasping, struggling to keep going just to make it to the other end. Even in the struggle, she knew I needed this. In my little world in which most things came easy, she knew I needed to learn how to work hard at something.

The thing I remember most clearly in my flashback was my mother cheering for me.

During those meets, in the honorable mention lane, I would hear her yelling and cheering for me all the way down the pool, “You can do it! Keep going!” Every. Single. Week.

I wasn’t winning any races, that’s for sure. It took a few more summers until I could actually swim well enough to earn some real ribbons. But more than anything else, I remember Momma cheering me on to the end of the race.

She’s never stopped either. She’s always been my Cheerleader.

Women of the Way 2017 Photo credit Nancy Rutledge

Throughout school, she’s cheered for better grades, piano recitals, and choir performances. She cheered for me when I got my first ‘real’ job at the shoe store. She definitely cheered when I graduated high school and college.

Her cheering took a on a different look as a I got older. She didn’t need to clap and holler to keep me going (at least not out loud). I could always ask her to cook a dish or pick up something at the store on her way to an event. Her quiet presence and support have always spoken volumes. She’s always had my back.

These memories are what come flooding back to me now that I am at the pool cheering for my own kids. I hope I can be the cheerleader to them that she was is to me.

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Summer swimming 2016 photo credit Nancy Rutledge

How has your mom…or another important woman…been a cheerleader in your life?


Advent: Love’s Greatest Story

Romantic movies try to create it. Love songs try to sing about it. Fairy tales try to capture it.

A longing lies in each of us for a Great Love Story.

We are drawn to such art, media, and entertainment because they touch in us this deep desire for love. Our hearts, and yes even our spirits, long for romance, adventure, and passion. We experience these thin attempts at love and long for more because they are only a shadow of a deeper desire.

Before time began, God wrote the story we crave. God set forth the plan to pursue and redeem us for Himself. He wrote the story of Jesus Christ as the Savior for us all.


In this great romance, He didn’t send Jesus to get us cleaned up good enough so he could finally show His love to us. No, this isn’t your familiar love story where the perfect looking hero and heroine meet, fall in love, and live happily ever after.

Instead, while we were yet sinners, broken, ugly, and undeserving of His attention,   He sent Jesus as the Word made flesh because He already loved us. His motivation to send His Son as Savior of the World was because of His passionate love for us.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only Begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him will not perish but have Everlasting Life. John 3:16

Read it again for the first time.

It doesn’t say that He sent His Son to make the people lovable and then pursue us the object of His Desire. Rather, He loved us first and then set in motion the plot of the Great Love Story. The Hero seeks out the heroine even before she knows He is searching for her!

The fourth week of Advent reminds us of this great love God has for each of us and to be reminded that God’s pure, passionate love was why He sent us a Savior.Adventjoy

It makes perfect sense, then, the weeks of Advent are all part of the Great Love Story- Thanksgiving giving way to Hope, Hope making room for Peace, Peace leading us to Joy, and Joy opening our hearts for Love. In a dramatic, breath-taking conclusion, Christ bursts onto the scene as a baby, Emmanuel- God with us, and Love’s Greatest Story is birthed in our hearts!


As we light the 4th candle of Advent, I pray this love story is written on your heart in such a way the celebration of Jesus’ birth floods you with Hope, Peace, Joy and most of all, Love!


How Football can teach you about Ministry

Show of hands…….Who else loves football season??

I’m not a huge sports fan, but I do love football.  The excitement, the intensity,the cool weather, the band….the win!!! I love it!

I grew up with a dad who particularly loved (and still does) a certain Crimson team with a rich history of tradition and winning. I remember waiting in the kitchen with my pom poms, and when there was a touchdown, I would run into the den to cheer!

I married a man who is equally passionate about our beloved team as my daddy. I always said the only thing my daddy and my husband had in common were football and me:) So,we pretty much plan our Saturdays around game time. Even though I prefer college football over professional, I still like the background noise of the game on Sunday afternoons…or anytime.

Here lately, I’ve been thinking about the training football players receive and what it takes to make successful teams and win games. I believe the same ideas could help us in life and in our ministries……

  1. Play a full 60 minutes: Football players are taught to give 100% for the FULL 60 minutes of the game.They don’t give up when there’s still another quarter left or even just a couple of minutes.  I can start to coast after lunch, or on Thursday afternoons, be tempted to call it a week. However, I know that’s not my best. I should give my best for the full day or week or task until it is complete….despite the outcome!
  2. Prepare: Football teams don’t start preparing for the game on the day of the game. They start way back in the spring exercising and strength conditioning. Likewise, if we are serving, giving, teaching, singing, preaching..anything, don’t wait to the last minute to prepare. There have been so many times I waited til the last minute to get ready. Even though things may have gone ok, I knew in my heart it could have been better if I had prepared more. Even if it’s just praying and getting my heart focused, any preparation for ministry makes the outcome more effective.
  3. Play your position: The quarterback can’t pass the ball and catch the ball and block the other players. He can only play his position. If he tries to play all the positions, he won’t be able to properly play any of them. Also, if he’s too busy watching or comparing what his other teammates are doing, he’s not going to play at his best. Same with us. If I’m comparing my ministry to someone else’s or jealous of someone else’s success, it takes me away from playing effectively in my part of the game.
  4. Stay focused on the goal: Sometimes it’s hard to stay focused on why we are doing what we do. We get tired and pour ourselves out until we are empty. If we aren’t seeing a lot of results, we can get wore down and wonder if we’re gaining any ground or earning any points. Sometimes, making it to the final score seems too far away, so we keep our eyes on just making it to the next 10 yards to get the 1st down. Don’t ever forget….we aren’t playing for just a national championship (although that is very nice), we are playing for the eternal prize, the Kingdom Championship…..where every tear will be wiped away and we’ll be face to face with Him!
  5. There’s no “I ” in Team: Everybody loves a football player who humbly acknowledges the team  won the game together, not a single showboat hogging the lime-light. Same with us. Whether it’s your team of volunteers or music team at your local church or its the Body of Christ, the Church universal, we are ALL on the same team and should have the same goal in mind. We support and encourage each other. We set each other up for success.


As I’ve thought about how to act more like a winning team, I also think about where I’m playing my game. I don’t just need to do my best in church ministry or when people are looking. My best game needs to be in all areas of my life….work….home….grocery shopping……with activities I enjoy but even more so with activities that I don’t enjoy. I need to bring my A game during sacred ministry (singing, teaching) as well as ordinary ministry (laundry, dishes). It’s easy to feel like winning when I’m doing stuff I love. Where I really need to crack down and play for 60, prepare, stay focused on the goal, play my position, and stay with the team is when I’m doing the stuff I don’t really like so much. That’s where God gets the most honor and where my acts of service and worship are more authentic and real.

Everybody loves to cheer for a winning team. Your team may or may not make it to a championship game. But, if we claim Jesus as our Head Coach, then we are on the Kingdom Team!!! No matter what position, no matter what mission is your playing field, play like a Champion Christian!!

Roll Tide!!!



Remain in My Love

No matter where you come from or what kind of raisin’ you’ve had or what kind of life you’ve lived. …No matter if you’re in a season of lean or a season of plenty. No matter if you’ve really messed it up big or done everything “right”…No matter your color, size or zip code..

We are ALL looking for the same thing: Love

Even though we are all looking for the same thing, there’s a zillion different ways we go about it. We go “looking for love all the wrong places”……sounds like an old country song, right? It is….I grew up listening to 80’s country. Johnny Lee, 1980. Sure, it’s a great ballad cliche, but it’s true. We search for love in relationships, stuff, careers, etc, etc…….

But there’s only One way to get the love we are all searching for…..Remain in My Love.

Jesus said in John 15:9 “I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love.” Our joy is complete, like it says in the next couple of verses, by being filled to overflowing of His Love (verse 11). Abiding in and soaking in His Presence. Having a revelation of how much He really cares for you.

Remaining in His Love is like being grafted into a vine where the source of nourishment never runs out. That’s why He says “I am the vine and you are the branches” in that same chapter. Remaining in His Love is like being a well where the water never runs out or a waterfall that never ends. That’s why He says “Rivers of living water will flow from his heart” Mark 7:38


For all our searching and feeble attempts at being loved whether it’s through a relationship, food, drugs, possessions, job status, etc…the list goes on, there is nothing that satisfies more than the love of Christ. Nothing can compare to the security and safety of His Love.

So, no matter which side of the tracks you’ve been or where you are going, do you know how much He Loves you? Have you experienced a revelation of God’s Love?

But what if you don’t feel like He loves you??

Next time…….Part 2 Nothing Can Separate



Let’s all pause for a moment and reflect………….


Anybody who knows me more than a few minutes knows that I am a Gen.u.ine. Choco-haulic. Yes, I admit it. I need therapy.

The honest truth is that once when I was little girl I kept begging and begging to eat the Reese’s cups, and mom decided to “cure” me by letting me eat all I wanted until I got sick. Yep, I ate all I wanted. And Yep, I got sick as a dog. It’s been a down hill addiction ever since.

This chocolate love-affair has also brought with it the whoas of battling the scale, but that is another story for another day. Let us, for now, just think about the chocolate…..

Used to, I’d eat anything that was called ‘chocolate’. Sure- some were better than others, but I didn’t care. I HAD to have it. Literally, it would call my  name. But then as I grew older and wiser and my tastes matured, I experienced a whole new level of bliss. My taste buds and my heart discovered the likes of Lindt, Godiva, and…..Ghirardelli<3<3<3

No longer did that cheap stuff from the Dollar Store satisfy. And even that common, household  chocolate pales in comparison to the richness of those mentioned above only pure enough to be called…..Chocolate.

Even so, it dawns on me this is exactly how it is with my relationship with God. I have spent so much time and energy feeding myself with sub-par substitutes…..tv, magazines, facebook, food. I’m looking to nourish myself, relax and unwind. Sure, it feels good at the moment but vegging out on junk for the mind and the spirit leave me sluggish and tired and not really rested and nourished.

But, during those times I put down the remote, close the laptop, and clear out artificial flavors, colors and additives, I find God waiting for me. When I feast on His Word and soak in His Presence, there is nothing on this earth more satisfying. Nothing.

His Word is bread. His Spirit is water. His Presence is……..Chocolate!


What is it that you feed yourself? Is it the fake, mind-numbing diet of the world? Or, is it the richness and creaminess of God?

 Taste and see that the Lord is Good Psalm 34:8

How have you discovered to be satisfied by God?

Happy Valentine’s Day


Ps…I might need to consider what to give up for Lent, but that is another story for another day:)

Advent: Repentance leads to Hope

Thanksgiving and gratitude give way to Advent, a time to reflect on the first coming of Christ and to prepare for the second coming of Christ. Since this purple, penitential season is a time to examine one’s self, repentance is the place to start.

I sometimes get caught up in what I need, what I don’t have, or what I want. Being thankful helps me to remember how blessed I am. It refocuses my attention on all that I do have and how I lack for nothing. When I think about all the overwhelming blessings in my life, it puts my sins in their right perspective, and I am convicted of the need for repentance. Before I can prepare my heart for the joys of Christmas celebrations, examining my attitudes, thoughts and actions helps to prepare the way for His Coming into my life.


What do I find when I examine myself? I haven’t stolen anything lately that I can think of. I haven’t coveted my neighbors goat or broken any of the ‘big ones’. But this examination brings to light attitudes, negatives thoughts, selfishness, an ego always yearning for the spotlight, and pride. These seemingly subtle sins (but actually are the real sins) affect how I treat others and how I think others need to treat me. They blind me to seeing Christ in others, and deafen me to hearing His Voice.

Today, though, we light the first candle and read the Scriptures. We take in the verses of His Glory on our faces….preparing for His Coming….and being given every spiritual blessing until His return…and we say the words of the first week of Advent.

In my examining, I pray “Lord, Will I ever get it right?”

The answer is burning brightly before me……Jesus is Hope.Jesus is Hope

The questions I ask in my repentance are always answered in Hope.



How does repentance bring you to Hope….the first week of Advent?


Can you walk in someone else’s shoes?

Churches are like shoes. Everybody has a favorite pair that goes with just about everything, and they are broken in just right. You feel comfortable and confident in your favorite pair. If you are like me, finding and buying a new pair may take quite a long time because it’s so hard to find the right fit. Even then, a new pair can take a while to get comfortable.

Churches can be the same way. You attend the church that is comfortable for you- the music fits, the preaching fits, the style of worship fits you just right. For some of you, you’ve attended the same church all your life like a pair of shoes that never wear out. For others, you’ve tried on several different churches like buying a new pair of shoes with the changing seasons.

We get so comfortable with the way we ‘do’ church, we might have a hard time understanding how someone else could possibly attend another kind of church. We are so familiar with our prefered style of worship that we can’t possibly see how any other kind of church could ever be useful to someone else. And, we may not say it out loud, but we think, “that kind of church is just not of God”.

Hear me out. I know we have our denominational beliefs for certain reasons. I, too, have strong theological convictions. I believe, just like you, that some doctrinal beliefs are simply unbiblical. However, some of our perceptions of other churches are unnecessarily negative because we have a limited view of why they worship the way they do.


You take a sliver of knowledge about a church and let it shape your whole thinking. It could be from a movie or tv show or from hearing family members talk about other churches. Maybe you’ve actually been taught from your church leadership that the worship and beliefs of other churches are wrong. Catholics worship Mary. Pentecostals speak in tongues. Churches of Christ don’t use instruments. It may or may not be true, but your limited understanding is skewed because you often don’t get the full context and reasoning behind a belief or practice. A little bit of misunderstanding disqualifies them from any possible common ground as fellow believers.

No matter how you formed your perceptions, this lack of understanding causes you to step back from the people who worship that way. And when you step back, that creates a divide. It’s this division that separates us from unity.

Ok, maybe you’ve fully studied other churches’ theological and doctrinal beliefs, and you simply believe they are wrong. Still, if your study has led you to disassociate with other believers, then division still exists and the fullness of unity is not expressed.

I believe now more than ever we need to be unified in building God’s Kingdom as the Body of Christ. This doesn’t mean we stop worshipping at our preferred churches, but rather take intentional steps to get to know and understand people from other churches to gain an appreciation for their particular style and mission.

Uniformity does not equate to conformity. We don’t have to conform to each other’s point of view in order to be unified. In God’s beautiful Body, we can be uniquely shaped for our specific mission, and yet be solidly unified in our purpose of Kingdom building and love for each other.

Women of the Way 2013

So if churches are like shoes, walk in someone else’s shoes for a change!

Seriously! This past Sunday I shared a Facebook Live video and challenged everyone to try this one thing this summer: go visit someone else’s church! You can check out that video here!

Also, I’ve made some special handouts for good ideas to help you interact with other believers. “How to be More Interdenominational” has lots of ways to make connections and get to know others from different kinds of churches. Check that out here.

When you have a conversation, you get to know the person. Then, you understand a little bit more of where they are coming from and why they do what they do. Their different ways don’t seem so mysterious, and you can appreciate their point of view. Understanding develops, division diminishes, and unity grows!!!

I know many of you already participate with other believers, and so many of you have a heart for the Body of Christ that I know I’m preaching to the choir! However, if any of those dividing thoughts have ever crossed your mind, won’t you consider trying on a different pair of shoes just to see what it’s like?

Try walking a mile….or just a Sunday….in someone else’s shoes! Remember, if you need some help, sign up for this stuff right here.