On the Outside of the Circle

She sat across the table from me. She didn’t say a word. We were a bunch of women who  attended a workshop together, so the hotel restaurant seated us at one table. Some ladies knew each other and chatted away about this and that. Most of us were strangers. I knew a couple of ladies on my left and spoke to them occasionally, but mostly, I watched the others around me.

I watched to see if any of the other ladies would strike up a conversation with the woman seated across from me.  I thought that maybe I should talk to her. But, I was stubborn. I was grumpy for being at this particular restaurant. I had wanted to go some place else, but for the sake of the group, I went with what they wanted. I selfishly thought “I always talk first, let somebody else talk, why doesn’t someone talk to me??” (Yes, there was a little pity party going in my head) So, I sat there, ate my chicken, and observed.

She waited for her food, ate her hamburger in silence, and left.

I was saddened that no one around that table said a word to this woman. She wasn’t included in any of their conversations. Then again, I was guilty too. I didn’t say a word to her either:/

Why is it we stay in our groups and keep to ourselves? Why is it so hard to widen our circles just a bit to include someone sitting just on the outside? Why is it we sit at the table and just talk to the people we know? At work? At a restaurant? At church??

Maybe some of you are better at it than I. Maybe you don’t let these opportunities walk away like I did. Maybe I’m a little sensitive to this subject. Oh I know…some of us are shyer than others, and some of us are more outgoing. I have to admit that its hard for me to open up with a new person until I feel comfortable with her. But, I’ve been on the other side too. I’ve sat on the outside waiting for someone to talk to me. I’ve been the newcomer awkwardly hoping to get in on the conversation. It’s not enjoyable. So, maybe that’s why I notice it.

So, I’m trying to be better. I am trying to include the newbie, notice the one off to herself, and reach out to make that connection. I’m not going to let a woman walk away without saying something to her anymore. It doesn’t come naturally to me, but I’m trying. I’m trying to be better because relationships, friendships and connections are the silver and gold, the real stuff that matters. Eternal.

What has been your experience? Is it easy for your to strike a conversation with anyone?Have you ever been on the outside of the circle?



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Silver and Gold

“Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other gold.  A circle’s round it has no end, that’s how long I want to be your friend.”

Life is not about the stuff you accumulate or how much money you make. It’s not about your achievements or the letters behind your name.  It’s not about what you drive or your net worth.

Life is about Silver and Gold. It’s about friends, old and new. Those precious relationships mined out of life’s ins and outs. The people we meet that make our lives richer.

I’ve been keenly aware of the silver and gold in my own life this summer: A day at the pool,  sending that selfie from a dressing room ‘does this dress work?’, catching up on the phone, stopping by the office for a quick hug, planning a meet-up on Facebook, attending a difficult life changing event, inviting some over for a party, staying over for dinner, sharing revelations, and studying Truth. All of it precious. All of them Silver and Gold.

We can’t make it without friends. We need that wide circle of friends to cheer for us and have fun. We need that tight circle of confidants to tell us, “Girl, you’d better put that down!” We need that one kindred spirit to whisper those secrets of the heart. We need to nourish these relationships because we draw so much nourishment from them.

As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. Proverbs 27:17

I love it that I get sharpened by my Silver and Gold. Keeps me humble. Gets me loved. Lets me grow. Makes me More than I am.

Who are your Silver and Gold? Don’t let them tarnish. Polish them as often as possible. In turn, they will polish you, sharpen you. And, you will never be left empty.


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All of You…Together


The Summer Series is off to a great start! This is a reminder of why we are gathering……

Originally posted on Women of the Way:

1 Corinthians 3:16-23

16 Don’t you realize that all of you together are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God lives in[a] you?17 God will destroy anyone who destroys this temple. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.18 Stop deceiving yourselves. If you think you are wise by this world’s standards, you need to become a fool to be truly wise.19 For the wisdom of this world is foolishness to God. As the Scriptures say,“He traps the wise    in the snare of their own cleverness.”[b20 And again,“The Lord knows the thoughts of the wise;    he knows they are worthless.”[c]

21 So don’t boast about following a particular human leader. For everything belongs to you—22 whether Paul or Apollos or Peter,[d] or…

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A Modern Psalm

Praise the Lord for a new day full of restored strength and fresh mercy- His Love endures forever!

Give thanks to Him for hugs and kisses and cuddles- His Love endures forever!

For His hand of protection and answered prayer- His Love endures forever!

When family never fails and friends keep you going- His Love endures forever!

He causes spring to bring the flowers, summer to bring the tomatoes, and fall to bring the crisp air- His Love endures forever!

When my soul is dry and my mind is weary- His refreshing Love endures forever!

Even though the appliances die and the truck needs new tires- His providing Love endures forever!

For the longings of my heart that cannot be uttered out loud- His overwhelming Love endures forever!

When I run out of best intentions and they holler “momma!” for the 1000th time- His patient Love endures forever!

His Spirit fills again and His Word speaks again- His incredible Love endures forever!

When I’m soaring high or sinking way down low, His faithful Love endures forever!

No matter how I feel or what may come my way, His complete Love will never let me down and will never, ever end!!!

All glory, honor, and praise be to the King of kings and Lord of lords!

His bountiful, satisfying, perfect Love. Endures. Forever!!!!!!!!


(My words don’t seem to be enough, but this song seems to get a little closer)

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Fall in Love

I don’t blog about marriage. Although I have learned a lot about marriage and about being a wife, I don’t share much about it at WoW.

I don’t write about parenting. Oh boy….I have learned SO MUCH about myself through parenting and trying to be a better mom. Sure, I could share some tips and ideas and what I’ve had to do to survive being a mother of triplets. But, I don’t do that here.

I love baking and recipes. I am a total Foodie. I read other bloggers who do such a fine job blending the everyday with the sacred, but I don’t really feel called to bring that to this page.

Decorating? DYI projects? Photography? I’m just not the typical ‘mommy-blogger’, I guess

What then?

One of my deepest desires through Women of the Way is to bring hope, encouragement and guidance to you, my sister. To tell you, and hopefully, inspire you in becoming a more passionate, devoted follower of Christ. Why?

Because when you know that Jesus loves you, and you allow His love to sink down deep into your heart, and your relationship with Him is your primary source for all that you need, then everything else falls into place. Everything.

As women, when our relationship with Him is our sole security and the foundation of our lives, then we’ll be better women. As a result, we’ll have stronger families. Then, stronger families will lead to stronger churches. And, stronger churches will lead to the Kingdom of God being advanced!

We have that kind of influence.

We are that significant.

He longs to know us that deeply and use us in that way!

Do you long to know Him that deeply?

I truly believe if we begin to grasp how deep, how long, and how high the Father’s Love for us really is….I don’t mean ‘oh, church was nice’ or ‘I enjoy the music’ or ‘I find community there’….I mean ‘I feel so loved by God that I don’t need to look for a man or eat or have lots of friends to feel loved’, then His love can bring completewholeness in the deepest, most needful places of our hearts.

If you fall more in love with Him, just watch and see how it affects all the other ares of your life.  This song by Jars of Clay inspires me to fall more in love with Him.



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Alleluia, Christ is Risen!!

The Lord is Risen indeed! Alleluia!!!

We’ve celebrated the Resurrection. The songs have been sung. Sunday dinner was delicious. Several weeks have passed. Fifty days to be exact. And, here we are…..Pentecost!

Today, we celebrate what some call “the birthday of the Church”. It’s the day we celebrate when the Holy Spirit was poured out and into believers of Christ. No longer was God walking along side those who believe. God was dwelling in them!

Week after week, we do our thing…..work, live, eat, sleep, wake up, and repeat. Some days are great. Some days the problems of life smack us down. A couple of times a year we pause to reflect on this Christian life. Easter…Resurrection…ok…that’s great. Let’s keep moving. But, is our life reflecting the awesomeness of Jesus Christ alive? The Holy Spirit indwelling us??

The truth is the power of the Resurrection must be living in each of us! Every day!

19 I also pray that you will understand the incredible greatness of God’s power for us who believe him. This is the same mighty power 20 that raised Christ from the dead and seated him in the place of honor at God’s right hand in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 1:19-20

Did you get that? The same mighty power that raised Christ from the dead is for us who believe in him! The same Power that raised The Christ, Messiah from death lives in you and me! Everything changes when I stop long enough to let the truth of it try to sink in.

This is a game changer. This turns living-in-a-rut, day to day survival on its head.

If this same Holy Spirit lives in me, this same “incredible greatness of God’s power” residing in me, then surely I can give unceasingly of myself to my family, give 110% to my occupation, or serve the Church and community around me.

Surely, if Jesus was raised from the dead, then I can forgive those who’ve hurt me or pray for those who disagree with me, or (heaven help me) learn to tame my tongue!

Excuse me for a minute while I lose myself briefly to leap and shout for joy!!! Christ alive and living in…..ME! Alleluia! This is for real, ya’ll!!!

So, yes. We can do this life with its day to day trials and difficulties because we can live in the power of the Resurrection and in the celebration of Pentecost- when we choose it.

Father, no matter how I am feeling today, no matter what my circumstances are today, help me to recognize greatness of Your Power living in me. Fill me fresh with the Holy Spirit so that I may live this life in the power of the Resurrection in Jesus’ Name! Amen!!!


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Running on Empty

It’s been so long since I’ve written anything here. I’ve wanted to so badly. But, after Easter I just couldn’t. I was running on empty.

Since the beginning of the year, there have been so many wonderful things going on that required intense focus and preparation- studying, speaking, singing…..all on top of every day living…family, work, house, etc My goal was to keep all this in balance.

When Easter finally came, I had finished most of my engagements and was able to breathe a little satisfied sigh of relief. Now I could get some blogging and newsletter writing accomplished, you know…..social networking and such. After so many wonderful experiences from the spring, I wanted to capitalize on it.

But I couldn’t. Could. Not. I was empty.

I really, really wanted to, but the thought of even attempting to peck out my ideas in any kind of coherence was too overwhelming to bear. 

See, I had been giving and pouring myself out in all these ministry endeavors. In fact, in two different situations, I felt I was giving birth (in a spiritual sense) to an event and pouring myself out like pouring water from a pitcher. I finally came to the point that I had poured out all that God had filled in me. To try to write or give anymore from a place of emptiness would have fallen flat.

And, don’t forget, I still had regular life to continue. Laundry and dishes DO NOT take a break. The end of the school year is always a busy time too. At the end of the day, I surrendered to the couch along side my cozy husband for some tv.

I know that before I can pour myself out like that again I must refill and recharge. I must spend time in prayer and worship in God’s presence in order to be a in a place of overflowing ministry to others. I must rest. Sometimes that means just taking care of life’s essentials and putting other things on hold for a bit.

More time has passed than I anticipated. I wish I could recharge those batteries quicker so I can get back to my to-do list. But it’s ok. Taking the time to recharge is always worth it. I would so much rather let Him fill me and let Him flow out of me than to fabricate something out of emptiness.

I’m sure its the same way for you. Your to-do list probably looks a lot different from mine, yet probably looks a lot the same too. One thing is for sure the same- We cannot do all we need to do when we are running on empty. We must allow God to fill us to overflowing.

Ephesians 3:16 says-  I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit.

Take the time to let Him fill you. Don’t be running on empty! Take the time to feed your soul!


PS Happy Blogging Anniversary! I’ve been writing here for about a year now! Thank you for following and reading. If you read something you love, it would make so happy if you share it!

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